The downside of ISFP

[wolfy]

Originally Posted by Jeffster

Fi

Se

Now that's a conflict I can relate too!

[sarah]

Originally Posted by wolfy

I've been thinking about this and your previous question.
I've found thinking about it this way helps:

I learn. If you invest your ego that way nobody can take that away not even you. Even if you screw up you learn. So think I am a learner.

Keep fluid. Do things because you like to. Objective standards in performance have there place. But always think I do this because I like to. Nobody can say what you do and don't like. Only you can.

I am responsible. Responsibility looks forward blame looks back. So taking responsibility means to me keeping my eye on the objective and being fluid in approach. The balls in my end of the court so to speak.

In MBTI jargon.
Invest in values you control. Fi. Subjective values.
Be fluid in your approach to the world. Se.

Hope that makes sense.

It certainly does! Thanks for sharing.. Whenever I feel tempted to compare myself with others (which is constantly), it helps to tell myself that there really are no impossible, set-in-stone standards that have to be met in order for ME to feel happy about my own work -- unless I choose to sabotage my own happiness by making up those impossible standards.

Sarah
ISFP

[Lexlike]

Reading the downisdes of ISFP, i recognized some of my downsides... afterwards i ve read more information about and I also seemed to have many things in common with the ISFP type even though i consider myself still a NT.
I must add that I m acutally a strong Introvert and Perciever but my intuition and thinking judgment is really balanced, so no wonder. So are many ISFPs are also Ennegram 4 type... what do you think?

[Jeffster]

Originally Posted by Lexlike

So are many ISFPs are also Ennegram 4 type... what do you think?

I don't know, but so far I haven't seen anything that makes me "Ennegram" isn't just bunk.

[sarah]

Originally Posted by Lexlike

Reading the downisdes of ISFP, i recognized some of my downsides... afterwards i ve read more information about and I also seemed to have many things in common with the ISFP type even though i consider myself still a NT.
I must add that I m acutally a strong Introvert and Perciever but my intuition and thinking judgment is really balanced, so no wonder. So are many ISFPs are also Ennegram 4 type... what do you think?

This is timely.. I was just reading about enneagram types yesterday, and came to the conclusion that type 4 fits most of my lifelong issues -- coveting other people for what I think they have and I lack, or trying to spice up my life by creating high-impact emotional states instead of just living with my real feelings and trying to be considerate of others' as well. I have no doubt this is the reason why a couple of my love relationships when I was in my 20s failed, and that this is what one guy meant when he said that I was self-absorbed (the other was too "nice" at the time to say what was wrong, but I figured it out years later). I missed out on taking advantage of opportunities I could have enjoyed because I kept feeling I was lacking something necessary in order to be able to take advantage of them, or feeling I was wasn't predestined to have those experiences and enjoy them. Whever I did get what I wanted, I was haunted with the fear that maybe I just got lucky and that I didn't deserve that success.

At any rate, awareness is good, and it's helped me realize how happiness is a choice, and that I can choose to either nurture it or sabotage it.

One quote that's stuck with me for a while now and which really helps to center me is: "It's a sign of maturity when you begin to fall out of love with your own drama."

Sarah
ISFP