Being given responsibility

[ArbiterDewey]

Originally Posted by bbites

Hmm. I don't like being automatically given responsibility. If someone else can't handle it than I'll usually step in and take over but usually for selfish motives; like group work at school, I won't volunteer to be the leader but if the leader isn't "leading" than I'll step in and do whatever needs to be done to save my grade. But in general I get anxious about taking the reigns, so to speak. Too much pressure.

Agreed. I'll rarely volunteer for the leadership position, but as soon as I see things turning sour, I find myself leading; most times unintentionally.

This also applies to conversation concerning decision making, I believe. I remain quiet, observing all the data from the others. Once they come to a conclusion, if I feel there is a better, easier option I interject my solution. Rarely do I speak during these conversations until this point.

[Cimarron]

Thanks for your thoughts, guys. I think Recoleta's and Dewey's points resonate the most with me. But I think we are all generally feeling in the same area.

[Hmm]

I like being needed and valued so I don't mind being given responsibility. I might get bored otherwise.

[Bella]

I don't go looking for it.

[Cimarron]

Originally Posted by Bella

I don't go looking for it.

Why not? I usually don't either, which is part of the reason why I made this thread.

[Bella]

Originally Posted by Cimarron

Why not? I usually don't either, which is part of the reason why I made this thread.

What Sub said...

[Eldanen]

I avoid being given responsibility. I try to reject as many situations as possible where others "depend" on me. It's quite a drag. I don't really like thinking about what could be if I failed at a task I was "responsible" for as such. E.g. Can you promise to be here on X day at X time? Uhh, not really. Interestingly enough, when I was a Christian, and we'd have gatherings... if I did show up, I was always early .

[Cimarron]

Originally Posted by Eldanen

I don't really like thinking about what could be if I failed at a task I was "responsible" for as such.

You mean for fear of letting others down, or just for fear of how bad whatever condition/situation it is could become?

[Eldanen]

Originally Posted by Cimarron

You mean for fear of letting others down, or just for fear of how bad whatever condition/situation it is could become?

Both, really. Although, it might be less of a fear of letting others down, and more of a fear of just having a bad rep for being irresponsible :P. I don't really care about responsibility as a whole. I'll do what I absolutely have to do, but nothing more. Anything more I do, consider it a gift.

[Condor]

Being expressly introverted, I don't seek it out (responsibility) but it ends up in my lap anyway. Most of the time I get additional tasks that others have failed at. In a weird way, it's probably that I don't want the responsibility that I usually get it. I'll simply get the task done as simply and effectively as possible. Then it's over with. Because I want it over with quickly, I don't make assumptions, I don't rely on second-hand information, and I don't put myself in a position to rely on others at all - except for what I expressly dictate to them.

I find it extremely efficient. Others find it extremely annoying and anti-social. People who gave me the responsibility in the first place find it extremely satisfying (that the task is done - right).

Ironic, isn't it?