Too alike = too bland? - Page 2

Jack Flak · 10-03-2008, 09:21 AM

Affected by type: Areas of strength and weakness.

Trinity · 10-03-2008, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by animenagai

how do hobbies work in terms of similarities? you think that you need to be interested in similar things? is it easy to drift apart and just 'do your own thing' if they don't?

Methinks you need common ground but don't need to share hobbies.

Randomnity · 10-03-2008, 02:11 PM

My bf is one letter off (ISFP), we are alike in a lot of ways but different in many more. I think it's a pretty good balance, and isn't boring. Mind you, he's a lot more SP-like than me so maybe that helps. We certainly have different strengths and weaknesses, for the most part....if I had to guess, I'd say that my weakness are more related to the I/T while his are more S/P.

People of very different types can sometimes result in...explosive interactions.

nottaprettygal · 10-03-2008, 02:28 PM

It's sort of a silly notion to think that people of the same types possess exactly the same traits.

I don't see why it would necessarily be boring. Having the same type doesn't mean that you have the same thoughts and opinions. These are the things that keep relationships interesting, IMO. You can think/feel/sense/intuit in a very similar way but arrive at very different conclusions.

cafe · 10-03-2008, 03:15 PM

My husband and I are both INs. He's an INTP and I'm an INFJ. We seem to have a lot of the same weaknesses and that does sometimes get us into trouble, but we are understanding with one another because it would be hypocritical not to be. Our strengths are pretty different, which is nice and interesting and fun and fosters some pretty good mutual admiration.

I suppose someone on the outside looking in might consider us bland, but we don't feel that way. He always has interesting things to talk about and I have my weird perspective shifts to apply to almost everything. We enjoy each other and laugh a lot together and our relationship is harmonious, comforting, and quietly passionate.

Works for us, but we've observed that some folks seem to need more conflict, power struggles, etc than we do. *shrug*

bluemonday · 10-03-2008, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by animenagai

we jump around theories and type combinations here on MBTI central. let's ask a basic question about MBTI romantic pairing: are types that are too close together boring? for example, i'm an ENFP, and i've noticed that a lot of chicks who i've eyed out are NFP's. i understand that i am drawn to them because of certain similarities. however, as a person with literally no relationship experience, i wonder if these similarities will become bring after a while. from your experience, do you work better with types who are close to you or types who share some similarities but are largely different from you?

1. A relationship with an INTP could never be bland.

2. All similarities become bring after a while.

3. I don't work.

Uberfuhrer · 10-03-2008, 04:37 PM

Long story short, if she has looks that I approve of and she's like me in every way in terms of personality and intelligence, then I will have just met the perfect woman.

Oh, who am I kidding? I've always been attracted to artsy girls. Sadly, I am personally not artsy in any way in terms of dress -- I'm very pragmatic and don't know what I wear half the time...

Terian · 10-03-2008, 07:17 PM

I love other ENTPs. I think it's possible that ENTPs are the most likely of all types to enjoy the company (LTR or not) of others in our type.

I'm so good at reading people that everyone ends up looking the same with minor changes (introversion/extroversion, etc.). In my experience, ENTPs are different- they're exciting and mysterious and most of all, interesting.

Ivy · 10-04-2008, 01:45 AM

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heart · 10-04-2008, 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by nottaprettygal

It's sort of a silly notion to think that people of the same types possess exactly the same traits.

I don't see why it would necessarily be boring. Having the same type doesn't mean that you have the same thoughts and opinions. These are the things that keep relationships interesting, IMO. You can think/feel/sense/intuit in a very similar way but arrive at very different conclusions.

Agree.

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cafe au lait Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: INFj Location: depressed midwest Posts: 4,810	My husband and I are both INs. He's an INTP and I'm an INFJ. We seem to have a lot of the same weaknesses and that does sometimes get us into trouble, but we are understanding with one another because it would be hypocritical not to be. Our strengths are pretty different, which is nice and interesting and fun and fosters some pretty good mutual admiration. I suppose someone on the outside looking in might consider us bland, but we don't feel that way. He always has interesting things to talk about and I have my weird perspective shifts to apply to almost everything. We enjoy each other and laugh a lot together and our relationship is harmonious, comforting, and quietly passionate. Works for us, but we've observed that some folks seem to need more conflict, power struggles, etc than we do. shrug __________________ This is one of the miracles of love: It gives a power of seeing through its own enchantments and yet not being disenchanted. ~C. S. Lewis

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10-03-2008, 02:11 PM	#13 (permalink)
Randomnity insert random title here Join Date: May 2007 Type: ISTP Posts: 1,150	My bf is one letter off (ISFP), we are alike in a lot of ways but different in many more. I think it's a pretty good balance, and isn't boring. Mind you, he's a lot more SP-like than me so maybe that helps. We certainly have different strengths and weaknesses, for the most part....if I had to guess, I'd say that my weakness are more related to the I/T while his are more S/P. People of very different types can sometimes result in...explosive interactions.

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nottaprettygal Super Moderator Join Date: May 2007 Type: INTj Location: Baltimore Posts: 1,534	It's sort of a silly notion to think that people of the same types possess exactly the same traits. I don't see why it would necessarily be boring. Having the same type doesn't mean that you have the same thoughts and opinions. These are the things that keep relationships interesting, IMO. You can think/feel/sense/intuit in a very similar way but arrive at very different conclusions.

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