What qualities are you attracted to? - Page 16

Eileen · 10-10-2008, 03:18 AM

I realized my list was pretty negative--people who lack undesirable traits, rather than people who have desirable ones.

Desirable traits include decent emotional availability, affection, self-confidence, confidence in me, intelligence, kindness, honesty, willingness to make an effort to match mine.

GargoylesLegacy · 11-02-2008, 11:02 PM

Oh Gee, Guys! If I show you my "List" for Qualities I like, you will end up telling me how picky I am, I guess.

The Truth is, it has Nothing to so with being picky, it is more of a Wishlist, since I had so many Relationships failing, because the Guys were completely off that List. So I basically started at "no Expectations" and whenever a Relationship failed, I noticed one or two Things that were SERIOUSLY missing and added them to my List. And now it is pretty big. *lol*

I once read in a Book, that you should not ask for Stuff you can't offer yourself, and in Fact all I ask for is only Stuff I CAN offer so I guess it is okay anyways.
Mostly the Qualities are:
~ intelligent, humorous, helpful, charismatic, caring, loyal, creative...
Yeah and Stuff like "being able to have good Talks, leaving me some free Space (but not TOO much, otherwise I will feel like "he doesn't care")...so probably you get the Idea. Just Someone who is Fun to be with. In the End it is probably like a "very special Friend you have *for yourself*".

I am even fine with long-Distance Relationships, but seriously, until now Everything I ever had Relationshipwise ended in some kind of little Misery. And that even if I was being completely honest and TOLD People I was "difficult" (Hey, I am an INTJ, so what do you expect? xD)

Yeah so...so much for my 2 Pennies.

10-10-2008, 03:18 AM	#151 (permalink)
Eileen Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: INFJ Location: an awesome bubble Posts: 1,643	I realized my list was pretty negative--people who lack undesirable traits, rather than people who have desirable ones. Desirable traits include decent emotional availability, affection, self-confidence, confidence in me, intelligence, kindness, honesty, willingness to make an effort to match mine. __________________ INFJ - 4w5 sx "Individual responsibility and mutual responsibility: that's the essence of America's promise." -- Barack Obama

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11-02-2008, 11:02 PM	#152 (permalink)
GargoylesLegacy Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Type: INTJ Location: Europe Posts: 474	Oh Gee, Guys! If I show you my "List" for Qualities I like, you will end up telling me how picky I am, I guess. The Truth is, it has Nothing to so with being picky, it is more of a Wishlist, since I had so many Relationships failing, because the Guys were completely off that List. So I basically started at "no Expectations" and whenever a Relationship failed, I noticed one or two Things that were SERIOUSLY missing and added them to my List. And now it is pretty big. lol I once read in a Book, that you should not ask for Stuff you can't offer yourself, and in Fact all I ask for is only Stuff I CAN offer so I guess it is okay anyways. Mostly the Qualities are: ~ intelligent, humorous, helpful, charismatic, caring, loyal, creative... Yeah and Stuff like "being able to have good Talks, leaving me some free Space (but not TOO much, otherwise I will feel like "he doesn't care")...so probably you get the Idea. Just Someone who is Fun to be with. In the End it is probably like a "very special Friend you have for yourself". I am even fine with long-Distance Relationships, but seriously, until now Everything I ever had Relationshipwise ended in some kind of little Misery. And that even if I was being completely honest and TOLD People I was "difficult" (Hey, I am an INTJ, so what do you expect? xD) Yeah so...so much for my 2 Pennies.