ENFP dating ENTP

[sakuraba]

how does this pair look?

[Oberon]

ENTPs get along great with anyone who will laugh at the ENTP's jokes and exercise a great appetite for physical affection. If you're willing to respect the motto "Anything worth doing is worth overdoing," you're aces in the ENTP book, I'd say.

[Jennifer]

Originally Posted by sakuraba

how does this pair look?

Probably like a pound of cesium thrown into a tank of water.

(Lots and LOTS of steam.)

[substitute]

Potential big communication problems in the T/F area... this can cause big problems because Ne is very sorta dependent on other people's perceptions and can be plunged into like, manic depression by an impression of not being liked or being disapproved of or something by someone they care about. This might happen purely due to those T/F miscommunications and both drive each other crazy with mutual paranoia and insecurity.

And Ne types are often very bad at compromising... two people like that together can be problematic.

I reckon ENTP and ENFP make great buddies and travel partners and stuff, but thinking of the ENFP's I know/have known, there have been numerous issues where long-term cohabitation was required...

[aelan]

ENFPs: Ne Fi. Te Si.
ENTPs: Ne Ti. Fe Si.

Positives I see:
- Their experience of the world is strongly intuitive, and they may heighten each other's awareness of things between the lines, and that'd throw up a nice deal of sparks due to discovery.
- Since the ENTP is deeply insecure, the warmth of the NF could warm the NT to slow down enough.
- The NT would learn to read and value the nuances of feelings, and how that fits to their own value system, which the Fi could open up for them
- The NF could learn the various lines of thought, if both are open enough.
- The NF would find the affirmation they need by giving the security the NT needs.
- Both are likely to be happy hopping from one experience to the next.

Negatives:
- Lack of stability and grounding if not taken care of, both low Ses.
- A poorly developed ENTP and ENFP could create a vicious cycle of neediness and needing to be needed. ENTP comes up with a hare-brained scheme, which ENFP supports out of guilt when the wiser action may have been to kill it (the scheme, not the ENTP).
- A darn messy home and not likely to be on time 50% of the time.

[substitute]

I've found in the past when working or dealing with ENFP's that it sorta falls to me to be the faux-J. I think because Ti is more likely to be assertive than Fi when backing up Ne, it tends to work that way. ENFP won't nag or bully me, and I don't like to nag or bully them either, but if either one of us is more likely to get sick of the shenanigans and just say "FFS let's just get on with it!" then it'll probably be ENTP.

I find that the person I become when spending extended periods with ENFP's isn't someone I like. As I say, it falls to me to have to be a lot bossier and harsher than I am naturally, and I can find it draining to have to always be the bad guy, or else nothing gets done.

It could just be that my J functions are stronger than the ENFP's I've known, though (see my signature), so maybe it's an individual thing; maybe I find it easier to 'transform' temporarily into ENTJ than they do into ENFJ.

Another problem in communication is both strongly Ne partners are bound to make the mistake of assuming that the other person has connected the same dots they have. And considering that one is looking along Feeling lines to connect them and one along Thinking, it's unlikely that they will very often join the same dots together.

Hmm... it's hard to really put my finger on it much more than that. I just know that I love ENFP's usually, but it can get tiring and a bit strained after a few days of prolonged contact (vacations, long hours work projects etc).

Also the fact that ENXP's are highly driven and energized by the presence of another person, and both can keep pinging around like a ball in a pinball machine as long as there's something to ping against, there may be very little rest, reflection or even sleep, as everything one says starts the other pinging, the other pings again from that, and on it goes.

Many times when my brother's slept over we've found ourselves still talking at 4am, knowing we have to be up in a few hours for a long journey, but neither of us can seem to stop the flow of inspiration we're getting off each other, despite our bodies protesting in exhausted agony!!

[targo]

so um I am an enfp and I married an entp.....

[runvardh]

Originally Posted by Oberon

If you're willing to respect the motto "Anything worth doing is worth overdoing," you're aces in the ENTP book, I'd say.

[autumn]

Originally Posted by targo

so um I am an enfp and I married an entp.....

So did I!

Of course there are a lot more things beyond MBTI that make us compatible, but in our case we make a great pair! I think we are very complementary.

I can't say exactly how we come across to other people, but my impression is that they think we're fun to be around.

I will say that one or both of you will probably have to use your shadow S functions and/or J preferences to a certain extent to make the household run smoothly, but those things will work out in due time.

Staying tuned to this conversation!

autumn

[Nocapszy]

It's a gg pair. My fave ever was an ENFP and I'm in the market for another -- that is, I found one I like, not searching for a mate based on type.