ENFP dating ENTP

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Originally Posted by Hypomanic

If you think so then you definitely shouldn't be questioning whether your ENTP or not. All I'm saying is that that is how ENTP's and ENFP's tend to get along from the ENTP perspective. You asked for opinions, so there you go.

Hm, I'm not sure I agree with you there. I love ENFP's, I'm just saying I can see some potential problems with being in a cohabiting relationship with one. Nothing insurmountable (I don't think much is insurmountable) though.

About staying up all night pinging off each other with e-Ne-rgy, it's a double edged sword. Now and again, it's great to experience. But on a regular basis... when my brother stays over for longer periods, we just get really crotchety and grouchy because of the physical exhaustion, and we STILL can't stop pinging off each other, except that because we're tired and stuff, we start getting sloppy with what we say, then that causes communication issues, and it ends up with that wonderfully energetic and inspiring non-stop conversation turning, after a few days, into something much less positive... even shouting matches...

I haven't been in a romantic relationship with an ENFP so I couldn't say for sure how I'd respond if I were, but based on my experiences with my brother (which are obviously both similar because of the ENxP pairing, but also dissimilar because it's a sibling relationship and we haven't lived together for 20+ years), I can see there being some problems for both parties. But that's the case with any pairing - any relationship will encounter problems. It's how the partners feel about each other that decides how hard they'll work at them.

[CzeCze]

If an ENFP is sincere and faithful then it is less likely for an ENTP to suspect any of ENFP’s social life.

I think that's a point of conflict right there. From what I've seen just on the boards, ENFPs are prone to being seen as inconsistent by some other types and that leads to suspicion and judgement calls about motives and mis/interpretation as insincere or fickle.

Really, whenever two people operate differently, it's always a possible source of friction. You may do something for X reason but if someone interprets it as Y, sometimes there's just no getting around it because you're arguing about totally different things. Perception is the crux of any relationship and I think most conflicts arise over 1) Whether or not you really did in fact, do something for X reason and 2) whose responsibility is it that the other person feels Y. Arguments boil over when you focus on whose MORE correct or more valid instead of what people are feeling and why and how to interact in a way that will not set each other off. And sometimes, if the other person feels Y, that's it, game over.

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Originally Posted by CzeCze

I think that's a point of conflict right there. From what I've seen just on the boards, ENFPs are prone to being seen as inconsistent by some other types and that leads to suspicion and judgement calls about motives and mis/interpretation as insincere or fickle.

Oh, ENTP's get that one too, rest assured

[sakuraba]

Im starting to think I am ENTP and ive always thought an xNFP is ideal.

Because Ne is so misunderstood by the world. Finally have someone who "gets it".

Yes there will be chaos. A messy house. Recklessness. But who cares? We both like it better that way.

xNFJs are nice too. But something about that Fe always irritates me.

[Dom]

Personally I could never quite believe or trust her... just too many carefully choosing ones words, the kinda thing having an entp best mate taught me to look out for....

ENFPs like to sirt around an issue, talk between the lines, etc very danergous at teh best of times, we fear hitting the subject straight up.

This ambiguity is like a heaven to teh entp who like to hide and control others perceptions of them and their vulnerabilities...

A LOT of honest communication work is required.