Comforting NFs - Page 2

sciski · 10-11-2008, 05:24 AM

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Originally Posted by PinkPiranha

How kind!

It was wonderful.

I'd been feeling neglected and depressed, and I was hiding and sulking, so it was a really good wake-up call.

SillyGoose · 10-11-2008, 05:25 AM

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Originally Posted by kyuuei

Well, they were invented by sunshine.. so I'm convinced they work.

Also, I always felt nothing was so powerful that a nice hot bath couldn't help soothe it, just a little.

I forgot about baths.

They are yummy too. And they do just take the sting out of whatever is bothering me. But I could take a bath on my own and wouldn't need someone to actually go out of their way to comfort me. But ya! Bath

good stuff.

placebo · 10-11-2008, 05:42 AM

I would definitely want someone to cheer me up, comfort me. I don't need advice, I don't particularly need to discuss it, I just want a little kindness sometimes.

heart · 10-11-2008, 05:58 AM

I'd take advice from a sincere, relatively open-minded hard thinker, otherwise just someone to take me seriously and give me understanding.

burkeus · 10-11-2008, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by SillyGoose

Okay, it may be just silly to some...but a HUG does wonders for me. If I am truly sad or depressed, a freaking hug is the best

What are You doing here?

Dwigie · 10-11-2008, 12:39 PM

I like someone who listens to me and yes hugs are awesome

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I also need a "slap" so I don't just pamper myself and I can get into action. Basically give me some tough love at first so I can work through the problem and "do" something about it then afterwards gimme a hug. :P(my reward )

Kyrielle · 10-11-2008, 04:04 PM

I need time alone to digest what's going on and probably to cry. If I really trust you, I'll let you hug me, but be prepared for me to cry all over you. Which is why I don't let too many people hug me when I'm upset. It's not that I don't want the intimate gesture, I do; it's that when someone offers me such a thing when I'm upset, my composure crumbles in an embarrassing display of emotional relief.

Later, I'll want to talk about it. Sometimes I'm looking for a solution. Sometimes I just want to make sure my interpretation of the situation wasn't completely wonky.

proteanmix · 10-11-2008, 04:25 PM

I really think this depends on the person.

One of my coworkers returned to work yesterday after the death of his mother. I knew nothing about it because no sent out an email or anything. He was upset no one from work called him to comfort him or send him their condolences. He was said I work with you all 40 hours a week and none of you picked up a phone to call me or email me. He was very upset. My other coworker responded she'd be mortified if coworkers started calling her.

I guess it's figuring out how the person typically responds in times of lesser crises so you'll have an idea of how they're respond in a major situation. I know I'm the type of person that will seek out a trusted person to talk to. Other people withdraw to digest on their own. If I know that when something happens somebody closes off I let them and offer that when they're ready to communicate I'll be available. Others I just prepare of the onslaught because I know they talk it out.

mlittrell · 10-11-2008, 04:29 PM

talk to best friend briefly (only if it is something absolutely horrible) and then get over it in about 5 minutes lol

Mondo · 10-11-2008, 07:40 PM

I appreciate company when I think things aren't going so well. It usually makes me feel better.
If left alone, I will drown in the negativity.

10-11-2008, 05:58 AM	#14 (permalink)
heart heart on fire Join Date: May 2007 Type: INFP Location: Collinwood Posts: 5,639	I'd take advice from a sincere, relatively open-minded hard thinker, otherwise just someone to take me seriously and give me understanding. __________________ 5w4 sx/sp People understand me so poorly that they don't even understand my complaint about them not understanding me. Soren Kierkegaard

10-11-2008, 12:39 PM	#16 (permalink)
Dwigie Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Type: INFJ Posts: 443	I like someone who listens to me and yes hugs are awesome . I also need a "slap" so I don't just pamper myself and I can get into action. Basically give me some tough love at first so I can work through the problem and "do" something about it then afterwards gimme a hug. :P(my reward ) __________________ Breathe in, Breathe out.

10-11-2008, 04:04 PM	#17 (permalink)
Kyrielle Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: INFJ Location: Marietta/Savannah, GA Posts: 697	I need time alone to digest what's going on and probably to cry. If I really trust you, I'll let you hug me, but be prepared for me to cry all over you. Which is why I don't let too many people hug me when I'm upset. It's not that I don't want the intimate gesture, I do; it's that when someone offers me such a thing when I'm upset, my composure crumbles in an embarrassing display of emotional relief. Later, I'll want to talk about it. Sometimes I'm looking for a solution. Sometimes I just want to make sure my interpretation of the situation wasn't completely wonky. __________________ "Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able, and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God." -Epicurus.

10-11-2008, 04:25 PM	#18 (permalink)
proteanmix Atomic Station Stop Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: ExFJ Location: on the rise Posts: 2,588	I really think this depends on the person. One of my coworkers returned to work yesterday after the death of his mother. I knew nothing about it because no sent out an email or anything. He was upset no one from work called him to comfort him or send him their condolences. He was said I work with you all 40 hours a week and none of you picked up a phone to call me or email me. He was very upset. My other coworker responded she'd be mortified if coworkers started calling her. I guess it's figuring out how the person typically responds in times of lesser crises so you'll have an idea of how they're respond in a major situation. I know I'm the type of person that will seek out a trusted person to talk to. Other people withdraw to digest on their own. If I know that when something happens somebody closes off I let them and offer that when they're ready to communicate I'll be available. Others I just prepare of the onslaught because I know they talk it out. __________________ The reason it makes sense to smash these little bits of matter together at high energy is a simple relation between energy and distance-- in order to examine matter on the very smallest distance scales, you have to give it a high energy - the higher the energy, the shorter the distance you can look at. Particles are created as a result of these collisions

10-11-2008, 04:29 PM	#19 (permalink)
mlittrell Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Type: ENFP Location: New Jersey Posts: 1,138	talk to best friend briefly (only if it is something absolutely horrible) and then get over it in about 5 minutes lol __________________ "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. " "You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty." "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." Mahatma Gandhi MBTI: ENFP \| Enneagram: 9w1 \| Acetylcholine dominant Choleric according to Eysenck's system. Big 5: Primary Inquisitive \| Socionics: IEE Gardner: Inter/Intra-personal/Visual Spacial

10-11-2008, 05:42 AM	#13 (permalink)
placebo Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Type: INFP Location: Canada Posts: 409	I would definitely want someone to cheer me up, comfort me. I don't need advice, I don't particularly need to discuss it, I just want a little kindness sometimes.

10-11-2008, 07:40 PM	#20 (permalink)
Mondo The press is the enemy. Join Date: Mar 2008 Type: ENTP Location: Long Island, NY (Home)-->Durham, NC (College) Posts: 1,116	I appreciate company when I think things aren't going so well. It usually makes me feel better. If left alone, I will drown in the negativity. __________________ MBTI Type: ENTP Enneagram Type: 6-1-4 SIP I'm a Thinker who is NOT a robot!!! 53% E, 47% I 84% N, 16% S 63% T, 37% F 74% P, 26% J

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