NFs and positive energy

[Antisocial one]

Originally Posted by nolla

I can somewhat agree. I wouldn't say I need positive energy, but what I need is absence of negative energy. It was harder before I realized that I can be ok without positive energy as long as there's no negative either.

I guess this is one more way of telling it.

[Kyrielle]

If by positive energy you mean reassurance, then yes I need a bit of reassurance.

As far as negative environments go, I suppose I can explain it like this:

If people are upset in some way or have resorted to outwardly projecting how shitty they're feeling on to everyone in the room, then I am going to get tired, irritated, and a little down. Mostly because I want to do something to make them stop being so...in a word...bitchy, but know the situation wouldn't call for it or they'd turn on me and roast me with their "I'm upset so you should be upset too" laser beam of death. So I end up feeling tired of actively trying to maintain an inner calm, irritated with how they are acting, and downhearted because I want to avoid conflict bad enough that I don't think I should do anything about it.

I'm trying to grow a pair so I can ask, without being afraid of them getting angry with me, what's got them upset and hopefully diffuse the situation so that maybe they feel a little better

[ixquic_creation]

My ex and I shared an apartment. Our apartment turned into a party house.

Drugs and booze, constantly. Pharms, crack, coke, hard alcohol, ect. Alterations that I don't mess with.

Negativity, constantly.

There were several downtrodden, misplaced, angry individuals who were ALWAYS there. Alot of "fuck-the-world.-I-don't-need-anyone." type attitudes. Fights breaking out, arguements, drama.

I would always end up looking like the bitch of the year, because someone would get shitface and belligerent, so I'd kick them out. I don't tolerate that type of behavior, especially in my own home. My ex had NO spine, concerning his friends.

Granted, I love wine, bud, and hallucinogens as much as the next pseudo-hippie... but when you throw a whole bunch of metalheads and juggalos together, and your hippiefest turns into a bloodbath. I view drugs as vehicle for mind expansion, but they wanted to forget their minds.



I was very, very depressed. Suicidal, almost. Alot of, "Goddess, is this my life? I'll never, ever make it to my half-life. I'm twenty years old, and already hate existance. How the hell did I get on interstate 8!?"

The relationship fizzled out, and I started surrounding myself with more positive, intellectual people.

Depression went away. Go figure.

I feed off of positive energy. It gives me light and hope.

Misery loves company, and I'm too empathic for my own good.

[Jack Flak]

'Tis simply their idealism actin' up.

[Dwigie]

Yeah...positive energy is like a drug to me. I find that energy in my friends mostly.
they're my sanctuary...my family and school stress me out.
So I go outside, I work out, I do anything to feel better.(Yeah escapism is a flaw of mine, I do need a reality check from time to time to deal with bad emotions and bad energy)
I choose to "flee" bad energy, so people may see me randomly leave the room or go quiet for a while after they thought.Sometimes I'm still upset after everyone in the room is over it...it's actually embarrassing.

[nolla]

Originally Posted by ixquic_creation

My ex and I shared an apartment. Our apartment turned into a party house.

Drugs and booze, constantly. Pharms, crack, coke, hard alcohol, ect. Alterations that I don't mess with.

Negativity, constantly.

There were several downtrodden, misplaced, angry individuals who were ALWAYS there. Alot of "fuck-the-world.-I-don't-need-anyone." type attitudes. Fights breaking out, arguements, drama.

Whew.. I probably would have snapped. That's crazy. Sure, people are nice and all, but if they never leave... uhh...

Originally Posted by Antisocial one

I guess this is one more way of telling it.

No, there is a difference. It's like, when I go to smoke on the back yard in the morning and I know there's nothing special I am going to do that day, I can either feel really bored, or I can watch the leaves coming down from the trees. Either way I am doing the same thing but if I concentrate on how I will not get any good vibes today, I will feel worse than if I am content with not having bad vibes.

[Rachelinpa]

I prefer positive energy, but I don't necessarily need it all the time. When I'm on my game, I exert the positive energy myself until it catches on with the people I am around. It usually does.

[EvanTheClown]

I'm a fountain of positive energy that whores out this resource in abundance, and is most comfortable when completely consumed and baptized in it, thus the people around me normally have smiles on their faces.

Though, I'm rather emotional if you can break through my shell to get to that part. I think high F has a lot to do with the absolute necessity for positive energy in NFs

Negative energy is awkward and uncomfortable, and almost always results in conflict. If I'm in a situation with too much conflict, I escape rather than put myself through the torture.

[CaptainChick]

Originally Posted by EvanTheClown

I'm a fountain of positive energy that whores out this resource in abundance, and is most comfortable when completely consumed and baptized in it, thus the people around me normally have smiles on their faces.

Awwww, reading this literally put a HUGE smile on my face!!!

Thanks!

[EvanTheClown]

You're welcome. What are idealists for, other than lots of smileys?