What happens when NF explodes?

nolla · 07-03-2008, 05:16 PM

I haven't lost my self-control since I was ten. It bothers me. I would like to know how I react if I lose it, but of course I can't make myself lose it, and I'm not sure that I dared if I could. Its like, I have no evidence that I would be dangerous or anything, but it doesn't feel good not knowing...

The second last time I lost it was when I was 8 or something. My brother had left scissors on the floor and we ran around the house and I ended up having the scissors in my foot. I mostly yelled some ugly stuff. Then the last time was when we were fighting outside (i was sick of fighting all the time with him, but he somehow enjoyed it) and I broke his self-confidence by laughing at him while he was trying to keep me down. Im not sure if he ever recovered emotionally. He was devastated by it.

So, now I'm quite a lot older and I don't really know what I might do if I ever lose my sence of right and wrong. I mean, it was really a big surprise for the ten-year-old-me to break someone with a laugh, and I have never done anything like that again, but it makes me think that I could possibly hurt someone really bad if I don't keep myself in check.

Experiences?

Silently Honest · 07-03-2008, 05:19 PM

Ugh, once I swallow it myself I'll get right on that.

PinkPiranha · 07-03-2008, 05:20 PM

I've gotten into brawls with grown men before. That's what happens when NF gets pushed beyond endurance.

I would never do such a thing now. I'm mostly a wall/door kicker. But my temper is still pretty fierce. I have to sit on it a lot.

disregard · 07-03-2008, 05:21 PM

I have never been the type to chew someone out and be nasty, but if I'm *really* angry, I'll break things.

Last week it was a flower pot.

DigitalMethod · 07-03-2008, 05:24 PM

I always thought when NFs explode confetti goes everywhere with ponies and rainbows and such, with a slight baby's giggle in the background.

Heh,
But seriously,
"Under stress, it's not uncommon for INFPs to mis-use hard logic in the heat of anger, throwing out fact after fact in an emotional outburst."

I think that applies to all NFs mostly though, at least INFP and INFJ.

nolla · 07-03-2008, 05:27 PM

Logic doesn't worry me, breaking stuff neither. It is the emotional sharp-shooting that I am afraid of.

sleep · 07-03-2008, 05:32 PM

I just yell a lot of harsh things at surprising speed and volume. I can't fight at all, so when I actually do just get so irked to the point of loss of self-control I'm just loud and mean, and if everything persists, I'll probably start crying a bit.

This has only happened twice, though.

helen · 07-03-2008, 05:48 PM

Quote:

I just yell a lot of harsh things at surprising speed and volume. I can't fight at all, so when I actually do just get so irked to the point of loss of self-control I'm just loud and mean, and if everything persists, I'll probably start crying a bit.

Yes. This is exactly what I do. I don't recklessly yell random harsh things, though, they are usually focused exactly on the specific thing that annoyed me and made me lose my temper. This way I feel less terrible afterwards, and it makes making up easier.

Still. I hate it when I get like that and I usually end up feeling much more frustrated with myself than with the luckless family member in question.

edit: my version of yelling is not exactly yelling, it's more like talking louder and faster than usual. And with flashing eyes.

Kanerou · 07-03-2008, 06:35 PM

Heh heh.....hellfire.

Seriously. I lose rationality for a while and am out to hurt the offender. Eventually, it wears off, but the residue remains for an uncertain period of time. Then, if we work through the conflict, I feel a closer connection between him/her and me.

wolfmaiden14 · 07-03-2008, 06:43 PM

If I actually get to that point from the high tolerance I've built up.. you will be in pain.

Whether it's because I break something physically or start sarcastically stabbing you emotionally with all the weaknesses and personal fears of yours that I've picked up on but not mentioned out of courtesy.. really depends on the situation.

And most likely either way I'll be staring you down the whole time. And I will feel absolutely no remorse because at that point, you WILL have deserved it and I won't hold back.

This is extra scary considering I've never really reached the breaking point since I was little and it wasn't that bad. The worst it ever got was almost taking a chair to a 4th grade girl's face. Thankfully, I stopped myself. o_O Uh, anyway, point being, I'm usually the nicest, sweetest, goofiest person you'll ever meet, so if I get serious, focused and my eyes start flashing... it's really really scary(shadow ESTP... look out!)

07-03-2008, 05:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
nolla Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Type: INFP Location: Finland Posts: 601	What happens when NF explodes? I haven't lost my self-control since I was ten. It bothers me. I would like to know how I react if I lose it, but of course I can't make myself lose it, and I'm not sure that I dared if I could. Its like, I have no evidence that I would be dangerous or anything, but it doesn't feel good not knowing... The second last time I lost it was when I was 8 or something. My brother had left scissors on the floor and we ran around the house and I ended up having the scissors in my foot. I mostly yelled some ugly stuff. Then the last time was when we were fighting outside (i was sick of fighting all the time with him, but he somehow enjoyed it) and I broke his self-confidence by laughing at him while he was trying to keep me down. Im not sure if he ever recovered emotionally. He was devastated by it. So, now I'm quite a lot older and I don't really know what I might do if I ever lose my sence of right and wrong. I mean, it was really a big surprise for the ten-year-old-me to break someone with a laugh, and I have never done anything like that again, but it makes me think that I could possibly hurt someone really bad if I don't keep myself in check. Experiences?

07-03-2008, 05:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
DigitalMethod Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Type: INTJ Location: USA, Georgia Posts: 548	I always thought when NFs explode confetti goes everywhere with ponies and rainbows and such, with a slight baby's giggle in the background. Heh, But seriously, "Under stress, it's not uncommon for INFPs to mis-use hard logic in the heat of anger, throwing out fact after fact in an emotional outburst." I think that applies to all NFs mostly though, at least INFP and INFJ. __________________ Enneagram 5>3>1

07-03-2008, 05:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
sleep Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Type: INFP Posts: 32	I just yell a lot of harsh things at surprising speed and volume. I can't fight at all, so when I actually do just get so irked to the point of loss of self-control I'm just loud and mean, and if everything persists, I'll probably start crying a bit. This has only happened twice, though. __________________ I'm gonna go lie down.

07-03-2008, 06:43 PM	#10 (permalink)
wolfmaiden14 wags tail Join Date: Oct 2007 Type: INfx Location: YOUR FACE Posts: 627	If I actually get to that point from the high tolerance I've built up.. you will be in pain. Whether it's because I break something physically or start sarcastically stabbing you emotionally with all the weaknesses and personal fears of yours that I've picked up on but not mentioned out of courtesy.. really depends on the situation. And most likely either way I'll be staring you down the whole time. And I will feel absolutely no remorse because at that point, you WILL have deserved it and I won't hold back. This is extra scary considering I've never really reached the breaking point since I was little and it wasn't that bad. The worst it ever got was almost taking a chair to a 4th grade girl's face. Thankfully, I stopped myself. o_O Uh, anyway, point being, I'm usually the nicest, sweetest, goofiest person you'll ever meet, so if I get serious, focused and my eyes start flashing... it's really really scary(shadow ESTP... look out!) __________________ Forming characters! Whose? Our own or others? Both. And in that momentous fact lies the peril and responsibility of our existence. - Elihu Burritt Member of the Maverick's Biker Club - Now crashing through walls instead of just..walking into them.

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07-03-2008, 05:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
PinkPiranha Fe Lightning Waltz Join Date: Nov 2007 Type: eNFJ Location: removing gruntles Posts: 4,926	I've gotten into brawls with grown men before. That's what happens when NF gets pushed beyond endurance. I would never do such a thing now. I'm mostly a wall/door kicker. But my temper is still pretty fierce. I have to sit on it a lot.

07-03-2008, 05:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
disregard Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Type: INFP Location: Corona del Mar, CA Posts: 4,666	I have never been the type to chew someone out and be nasty, but if I'm really angry, I'll break things. Last week it was a flower pot.

07-03-2008, 05:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
nolla Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Type: INFP Location: Finland Posts: 601	Logic doesn't worry me, breaking stuff neither. It is the emotional sharp-shooting that I am afraid of.

07-03-2008, 06:35 PM	#9 (permalink)
Kanerou Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Type: _NFP Posts: 29	Heh heh.....hellfire. Seriously. I lose rationality for a while and am out to hurt the offender. Eventually, it wears off, but the residue remains for an uncertain period of time. Then, if we work through the conflict, I feel a closer connection between him/her and me.