MBTI types of your friends

[MerkW]

Such a thread may have existed before.

But, regardless, what are the MBTI types of your close friends? How would you describe each person? How would you describe your relationship? What is your own MBTI type? Lastly, list your sex, the sex of each friend, your sexual orientation, and the sexual orientation.

I shall start:

My own type: INTx (I am still not entirely sure about that last one)
My own sex: Male
My own orientation: predominantly heterosexual/borderline asexual

2 friends (indeed, Merkw is very selective):

Friend A (ESTJ, male):
A very eccentric person (one of the only people I have ever met whom I would describe as being as strange as I). His type is actually somewhat questionable. He tested as ESTJ, but could possibly be an xNTJ. Regardless, he has unusually high Ne for an ESTJ (if he actually is an N, than he similarly has an unusual amount of Si) He has a Monty-Python-esque sense of humor. At the same time, he seemingly appears serious much of the time. He is quite pragmatic. His main interests seem to include (but are not limited to) politics, finance, diplomacy, music theory, Euclidean Geometry, and useless trivia. He frequently tries to shock people with odd and outlandish remarks. Paradoxically, he has many very conservative habits. His xxTJ-ness is quite obvious, though, despite his whimsy. He is utterly ruthless and pragmatic in his approach to gaining success and achievement (he doesn't only want to win...he wants others to fail miserably). [sexual orientation = exclusively heterosexual]
He and I are largely united by our sense of humor. Most of our dialog is whimsical banter that no one else comprehends. We also share similar political opinions, and we both have rather pessimistic tendencies. Many people (especially xxFPs), though, would probably say that we are very detached and that it isn't really a friendship (since, for example, we often don't say good-bye to each other, we avoid emotions entirely). That would be a false perception, however. We simply don't express much emotion.

Friend B (INTJ, female):
A similarly eccentric person, yet not to the same degree. Indeed, she is quite idiosyncratic, yet unlike Friend A, she doesn't make [many] voluntary attempts to appear strange. Although she is definitely an INTJ, she seemingly utilizes a combination of Te and Ne to give off a superficial appearance of Fe (she frequently looks like an ENFJ or INFJ). However, upon closer inspection one will realize that she utterly lacks Fe (she also happens to be a high-functioning autist). She is very blunt, straightforward, and ruthless [I greatly appreciate this]. Unlike many INTJs, though, she is very religious (she plans on becoming a minister). Her main interests are religion, spirituality, philosophy, psychology, and, to a lesser degree, any particularly intriguing facet of science or mathematics. She is extremely J-like. She is very detailed, meticulous, and her routines are so precise and regulated that I would not be even slightly surprised if I found out that everyone in New Jersey (where she lives) sets their clocks and watches to her schedule. She is also very strong on the NT, having a great taste for speculation and intellectual discussion and analysis of almost any topic. [sexual orientation = predominantly heterosexual]
Despite the fact that we do not have many of the same religious/political views, we understand each other extremely well. Many of our habits, oddities, and thought-processes are uncannily alike. We could almost have a full-blown conversation by just staring at each other. I can almost always guess what she is thinking and vice-versa. We share the same sense of humor. I consider her very trust-worthy and vice-versa.


Purpose of this thread: I am trying to look for patterns so that I can possibly construct a theory regarding inter-type relationships.

[Ezra]

I'm a male ENTJ 8w7 sp/so. I think that's fairly obvious.

INTJ and ENFP, both of whom are male. They have the same socionics type LII and IEE respectively. Great company. I don't know though; the INTJ could be an INFJ.

INTJ intelligent and logical; he's systematic and methodical in his reasoning. He's a 5w6 or 9w1; we're in the process of deciding. He has a great concern for ethical issues, like keeping green. He's a vegetarian, teetotaller, anti-capitalistic and -globalistic, and a left-winger (he's more authoritarian than he used to be), but not one of these ridiculous caricatures that students like to be; he actually feels strongly about these issues. He generally has a moral bases for these matters, much like Kant. I enjoy being around him immensely; we're always discussing one another's ideas and philosophies, ranging from how to govern a country to how to best live one's life. I rarely have issues with him, and have fought properly maybe once or twice in our lifetimes. We get on very well together.

ENFP quite different from me; he offers a rewarding and rich experience. It's difficult to get bored around him; we're always doing things. He's a 7w6 sx/sp (I think). Sometimes he doesn't appreciate my narrow-mindedness, but he's less open than he'd like to believe. I still get on well with him though. He idealises love and relationships to excess, and has a deep interest in film, which used to be subordinate to mine and now it is better. That gives us much to discuss. We share our broad tastes in music (at least twice do they cross one another), and are always swapping and trading.

As a group, we love going on walks in the countryside (either at night or in the day) and taking pictures. We talk sometimes about issues (so that two individuals are more dominant than one, who sometimes remains silent and/or a helper to one of us in any given argument, dispute or discussion ("I agree with you here")). The ENFP likes to talk about self-development, and often includes the Enneagram (to which I introduced him).

[nemo]

Me: Male, ENTP. Heterosexual.

Here are some of my better friends. I'm not sure exactly to what degree each person is hetero/homo-sexual, but all I know is that I've only known of them to date members of the opposite sex.

Also, most of these people had their types tested through the university at one point or another. Only a few are conjectures (I typically don't think about type when I meet people, but whatever).

Female ESTP
Holy crap this girl is a ball buster. I've seen her beat up men on more than one occasion. Extremely intelligent, too. Favorite things are punk rock, Jagermeister, smoking, fighting, and quantum physics. Her handshake is more firm than any ones I know. Wears lots of leather and chains, keeps hair pretty short, absolutely no or very little makeup. When she's attracted to a guy, does a complete 180 and turns into this sweet, bubbly thing, but then loudly threatens to eviscerate any other woman (edit: or man!) who dares to even look him the wrong way, which I find very endearing. Extremely idealistic about certain issues -- especially environmental ones -- but completely apathetic about most others; e.g. does not care who wins the primaries and refuses to even follow it. But never, ever underestimate her intelligence. She's an experimental/applied physics major (basically physics - astronomy electives + engineering electives + two extra lab sequences). Admits to having a slight crush on me, which I'm glad for, because otherwise I'd be slightly afraid of her.

Male INTJ
My physics/mathematics major friend. Wants to do research in theoretical physics. I admire him because he's so much more grounded than me in terms of getting assignments done on time and whatnot. I think he admires me because I generate a plethora of ideas that he can focus on and refine -- in fact, often I'll come up with something and he'll realize its significance far before I do, and vice versa. We'll probably end up doing a senior project together. Our thinking styles are similar enough that we can understand each other, but different enough that we come up with completely different perspectives. Likes to go out to a quiet pub and work through projects together, most of which are completely unrelated to our classwork. Completely uninterested in anything that is outside his professional work: e.g. is extremely intelligent and knows lots about mathematics and science, but is surprisingly ignorant about things like poetry or literature. Claims he'd be running some sort of company or doing behind-the-scenes management if he wasn't in science.

Male ENFJ
Room mate of my ESTP friend above. He annoys me relentlessly because he's a heavy drug user, whereas his room mate just smokes and drinks a lot. Compulsively idealistic about everything, to the point of being annoying. Definitely has a "save the world" complex about him, but falls into the stereotypical college student mold of someone who is too stoned to do anything about it. Will not shut up about Ron Paul. Is borderline belligerent sober, but since he's on drugs 75% of the time, it's even worse. Otherwise an extremely nice guy, I just wish he'd get his shit together and not be coming off some high most of the time.

Female ISFP
Girlfriend of my ENFJ friend above. Way too nice for her own good. An artist. I like her because whenever I'm hanging out with them and everyone decides to go crash some random party, she usually refuses and stays back -- which gives me someone to talk to, because I hate crashing parties: although I just don't like to intrude on people I don't know, I think she just gets overstimulated. Gets very pouty and shuts the world out whenever she's in conflict with her boyfriend (i.e. most of the time).

Male INFJ
Ex-boyfriend of the ESTP above (don't even ask how that ended). Psychology major. Really quiet, yet insightful. Has that weird voodoo-logic that I find mystifying about INFJs. Very interested in self-improvement, attaining higher levels of enlightenment, self-actualization, and other such nonsense (kidding about it being nonsense... sort of). Seems to be interested in how many concepts relate to one another, no matter how much time and space separates them (e.g. Buddhist philosophy and modern cognitive psychology), and sees the universe as some bizarre cosmic whole, which is very different from my outlook. Interested in dreams and whatnot. Probably the one person with whom I talk to the most whenever we get together, although sometimes I get the feeling that I bombard him with too much conversation.

Female ENFJ
Aspiring high school teacher and chronic pain in the ass, although I really enjoy her. Has a habit of organizing everyone and everything, but at the same time is extremely sweet, so we usually go along with it. I had to do a school project with her, and it was comical how differently we approached the project: she was busy motivating everyone, writing up schedules, delegating work, motivating everyone some more; I was just sort of spewing ideas everywhere, working on multiple areas of the project simultaneously without regard to her plans, etc. But we get along fantastically, and I really like her. In her personal life she spends a lot of time on self-development issues for both her and others, organizes things for political causes, etc.

Male ISTP
Probably my favorite friend to just chill with. He's an applied/actuarial mathematics major. He has this awesome ability to memorize large bits of information, and if he just keeps it in his mind can eventually come to understand it (whereas I need to understand something before it even enters my long-term memory). In addition to school, he works as a referee and teaches sailing and other odd jobs. Enjoys sports, but isn't very competitive. We spent an entire weekend after a brutal week of finals just sitting on his lawn in lawn chairs, drinking beer and BBQ'ing steaks. Very cool guy.

Male INTP
Film/Photography major. Like me, can only stay focused on things that interest/inspire him. Has a crazy encyclopedic knowledge of music and film, and whatever else interests him -- which is basically everything. Probably my only friend who, like me, is interested in both technical topics like science and mathematics, as well as literary/scholarly topics like art, literature, poetry, film, history, philosophy, humanities, etc. But really, his lack of focus really hurts him; he has way more potential than he acts on. Extremely funny. Sort of an "artsy intellectual" vibe, but really laid back and nonthreatening.

Female INFP
Quiet, creative, gentle soul. I don't think she could hurt a fly. Even her voice is low and quiet and gentle. The saying "still waters run deep" definitely applies to her. A photojournalism major, but really she's in photography for the fine art perspective. Has strong principles about most things, especially issues regarding the mass media and human rights. Very self-revealing through her art, but otherwise it's very hard to pry her open. Likes to remain somewhat enigmatic about her personality. She's absolutely brilliant, by the way -- her art is amazing. We originally became friends through our shared interest in photography, but I think we've stayed friends because there's a weird self-study that goes on between us: I can sort of do my own introspection by bouncing it off of her, and she can open up her shell a bit and learn more about the world through me.

I could do more but I've been typing for way too long. That's the bulk of it, though.

Edit: If you're interested, for your survey, the other friends I didn't writeup (but may later when time permits) are: a Male ENTJ, female ISFJ, a whole bunch of (mostly male) INTx math majors I'm around all day, female ESFJ, female ESFP, male INTJ.

2nd Edit: Hmm... I'm thinking I should do some of my friendships with people who are 500+ miles away now and I've largely lost touch with, too -- I think some of them might be more useful for the purposes of your survey.

[augmented]

Me: ENTP college kid trying to discover himself and figure out where he fits in all that shit. Heterosexual, but at the rate things are going, might as well be asexual.

My inner circle:

Friend 1: Male ENFJ. The best Fe of anyone I've ever met, but also extremely sharp and creative, very good humor writer, I want to say he's got great Ne but I'm not sure how that fits in function-wise. (I guess he could be ENTP with a Fe focus, like me, but he seems completely Fe-dominant). Social genius and completely gregarious and warm to most everybody, everyday weed smoker and recreational drug user, but also has all his shit together and is able to work for long stretches at a time. Once I asked him as he was leaving the hangout room at about 3:30 in the afternoon, "yo man, where are you going?" and he responded "i'm gonna go upstairs, get my chinese homework done, take a nap, wake up, go to dinner, go to this meeting, go to my other humor magazine meeting, come back, smoke, hookah, and watch a movie with you guys, are you fucking happy?" by then itd be about 1 am. he seems to have a schedule of everything but can also go with the flow.

Friend 2: male INFJ. kinda reminds me of me, and sorta my brother. he keeps his room messy as balls, so i thought he was a P at first, but as i got to know him hes definitely infj. quiet guy, everyday smoker but known to quit every now and then and have pretty good discipline to sit it out. good sense of logic but also very sensitive and merciful. probable psych major, sleeps a lot, always leaves social gatherings to go back to his room early, but is pretty much the nicest guy in the room at any given time. half-asian, his dad is really effeminate, kind of a so-cal surfer type who says "truuue" a lot.

Friend 3: Male INTP. this guy is the logic master and is studying "symbolic systems," kind of an interdisciplinary cognitive-science/philosophy/psych/neurobio/etc combo, hes gonna be doing a concentration in artificial intelligence. really philosophically oriented and always willing to analyze and have meta-conversations. kind of a closet worker, always goes to the library and reads a lot of history, and also uptight about really random shit. he is convinced that he checks his watch and reads "9:11" way more than is statistically probable. pretty quiet and unassuming, plays guitar and often retires to his bedchamber as well. he's guy #2's roommate, i think theyre the best pairing in our dorm. one girl labeled him "dreamy." i think i agree.

other people:

Person 4: INFJ female. this girl is pretty wack and i have been pretty into her since i got to school in september. suffers from depression, says shes bipolar, takes a lot of meds, sucks at sleeping, has had a boyfriend for 8 months and their relationship pretty much sucks (i've kinda been the best guy friend role, weak). really smart and good at seeing through people and things, definitely Ni dominant. always whines about how her life plans aren't working and she kinda sucks at being flexible with things. she was "that girl" in high school, self proclaimed. i think she means crazy backstabber drinker-between-classes overattached overemotional girl, a role shes been trying to shed since coming here but traces of which appear all the time. iono, maybe you have to know her. and maybe i just think shes hot so i allow her way too much slack.

Person 5: Female ENFP. i think this is the weirdest girl i've ever met, i had her pegged on INFP for a while until i realized her Ne is so off the charts and shes pretty much extraverted as fuck. dissonance (my brother) was mentioning that theres someone on this site, i cant remember who, who is probably an extravert but their metaphors and weird way of looking at the world has fallen on so many confused ears that they just are kinda forced into their own corner. this seems like a pretty good analysis of this girl, because she comes up with the most random analogies/connections, none of which make any sense but you have to stick with it and make her explain, and once she does you realize how insightful it is. she also has a weird vision defect (shortage in rods) which makes her unable to see in the dark and she'll apparently be totally blind within 20 years, which probably affects her outlook on the world. shes basically the shit though.



i have a lot of friends of a lot of different types, and pretty much the only consistency that i find is N. a lot of my friends from high school are S and overall i find that i'm simply not as engaged by them as by these weird, innovative thinkers that i find here. i've also noticed that, with the exception of person 5, pretty much every girl i'm really interested in is an NFJ. my mom is an ISFJ and shed be so much less hard to deal with if she were N instead.

[alcea rosea]

My closest friends:
ISTP, INTP, ESFx & ISFP

[Aven]

INTJ for my closest friend and that's about it.

I'm an INTP.

[cafe]

Me: INFJ

Hubby: INTP - he has interesting things to talk about and keeps me laughing.


Friends:
ENFP - My irl friend of 10+ years. We haven't lived close enough to get together for a long time, but we remain close friends.

INFJ - A new friend and kindred spirit that I'm looking forward to meeting in June.

ISFJ - My sister-in-law. We were not friends for a long time because we misunderstood one another and my mother exploited that. We still don't always understand one another, but she is good people and we give each other insight and encouragement.

EXSJ - My friend since fifth grade. We don't see a lot of each other, but we have a good time when we do. We share a lot of memories.

ESXP - We've been more like cousins since our mothers were friends when we were born. We do not have a lot in common, but we try to be there for each other and we can enjoy hanging out together for short periods every now and again.

[Jennifer]

Don't feel like writing out a lot, but...

Friend #1: male INTP (best friend from college onwards), currently lives two hours away. We are just very close and always have been. Some things never change.

Friend #2: male INFP, local, goes to my old church. he and I are going through similar emotional traumas right now, although the situations are different -- learning the same life lessons. We just approach things a little differently, but we "get" each other.

Friend #3: female INFP, coworker. Local support, almost my mom's age, a good "mom" figure to me. Wild artistic type, a painter, and dresses better than some people in their 20's and 30's.

Friend #4: My therapist for the last few years, female ENFJ (same age as #3). She is a best bud, a wild and wacky woman, and we've written a few times out of therapy and she's already said she'd love to get together with me in the future, after this is all said and done. She's a riot.

and, of course, (and she should be at the top)... there's Rose. (ISFJ extraordinaire)

I'd have more NT friends, but I cannot seem to find many of them around here.

[Ivy]

Of the people I know IRL that I don't also know on this forum, only a few know their most likely MBTI type. So these are mostly guesses.

Spouse: INTP fashizzle

Best friend: ENFJ is my best guess although she could be S. She has a low patience for abstractions and likes to keep it real, but she also seems to make connections and spot patterns like a mofo. She and I are similarly split on N/S.

The network of women I somehow got plugged into (who I collectively and affectionately refer to as the MILFs) are a variety of personalities. There are two social workers who run an alternative program for at-risk youths who have been expelled or suspended from school. I think they're an INFP and an ENFP. There is a super-glam one who is the office manager at a cosmetic dermatology practice, I would say she is probably ENTP but maybe ESTP. Hard to say on the N/S. One is a portrait photographer who couldn't be anything but an ESTP, to my eye. One is a clinical social worker (therapist) who is ISFJ. Two of them are speech pathologists, both likely ESFPs. One is an environmental scientist and INTJ I think. One is a nurse with a PhD in Anthropology (sounds odd, and is) who I would say is INFJ. Great bunch of ladies.

[cascademn]

In real life, those I consider very close friends -

INFJ female friend of 5-6 years
INFJ female friend of 6-7 years
EnTJ female friend of 8 yrs
INFP/INxP male friend (I'm not entirely positive on his mbti) of 8 yrs