How Many Potentials Do You Talk to Every Day?

[Modern Nomad]

So I was just wondering...

so lets say you meet someone, and you guys talk, chat, watever, go out, hang out, etc... and then u guys become interested, and some sort of "going out, talking to, thinking about each other, etc..." thing happens...

but then lets say, they are all non committal at this point... and u guys contact/talk/chat at least every day, or every other day, or at some periodic frequency so you guys remember each other's "essence" or something like that...

I was wondering, how many do people do most people do this with? Whats normal?

[Evan]

Less than .1, and if I made the judgment after 1 minute of conversation, it's less than .01.

Blaaaaaaaaaah.

(I'm talking about potential for relationships, btw. If it was potential girls to kiss at a party, it'd be more like 2 a week, so .285714 a day :))

[Sunshine]

Bleh I can't kiss someone that I don't have strong feelings for.


@ the OP: Umm well there's one guy right now that I could see myself with but I'm already seeing a conflict of belief systems that I think would get in the way :(

[FDG]

anything that has a hole?

[Jack Flak]

Talk to? You crack me up, Nomad.

[Modern Nomad]

Talk to? You crack me up, Nomad.

dood, well u can be similiar emotional involved whether home run or getting a single.

[Trinity]

It's still funny "talk to" :rofl1:

[Modern Nomad]

It's still funny "talk to" :rofl1:

well, im trying to keep this pg 13!

hmmm... well i guess there's no turning back now.

[Jack Flak]

dood, well u can be similiar emotional involved whether home run or getting a single.
Okay then, I'll settle for stare at, bat eyelashes then.

I was referring to my paralyzing introversion, not my success in the sexual realm. Wait, "Yee! Gonna get me some ladies toe night, ya huh." Much cooler sounding than "paralyzing introversion."

[Modern Nomad]

OHHHH

I mean, "potentials for long term relationship" that you talk to every day. Meaning each one u talk to every day from the moment u guys met and got interested... or .... more than interested... etc... or every other day... enough "correspondence" so that u guys know each other is on each other's mind, especially on "going out" nights... (i.e. thurs-sat, possibly sunday)

[Modern Nomad]

@ the OP: Umm well there's one guy right now that I could see myself with but I'm already seeing a conflict of belief systems that I think would get in the way :(

mmm... i see i see...

at some point do u think u will stop talking to them, or u will just see where it ends up? just play it by ear right?

[Jack Flak]

Hmm. I don't know, now and then? If I'm really interested I sure think about the girl a lot, however.

[Trinity]

well, im trying to keep this pg 13!

hmmm... well i guess there's no turning back now.

Yeah, I'm talking G rating here. You've gone the other direction :D

[Modern Nomad]

Yeah, I'm talking G rating here. You've gone the other direction :D

Its back to G. http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

[Modern Nomad]

Okay then, I'll settle for stare at, bat eyelashes then.

I was referring to my paralyzing introversion, not my success in the sexual realm. Wait, "Yee! Gonna get me some ladies toe night, ya huh." Much cooler sounding than "paralyzing introversion."

ahhh

yeah. i get like that too... thats why i need to drink lol

then its like FOCUS ON SIGHT! haha

[Trinity]

I mean, "potentials for long term relationship" that you talk to every day. Meaning each one u talk to every day from the moment u guys met and got interested... or .... more than interested... etc... or every other day... enough "correspondence" so that u guys know each other is on each other's mind, especially on "going out" nights... (i.e. thurs-sat, possibly sunday)

Can't say I've ever really done that anyway, you know the talk to/interact with on a somewhat daily basis. I likes my space.

How many potentials? Erm there's a zero and a decimal, that's all I know.

I'm thinking what's normal for an average introvert might be quite abnormal for an average extravert.

[CzeCze]

anything that has a hole?

:doh:

Nomad, you forgot this! ^^

FDG, you should totally be posting in the 'Why Should You Have Sex' thread. Or the 'I am a virile young male thread' (I'm sure there has to be one around here...)

To answer the OP -- hmmm, in ENFP speak, unquantifiable? I guess until I get that 'discernment' function really built up...

*Edit begin/*

Wait, wait wait, you mean how many new folks I speak to that within 5 minutes I still am interested in? Ohhh, again with that whole 'discernment function' not at 100% yet in me, you know how we ENFPs roll! Chatty, chatty, chatty and out and about. Technically, if you consider every single person fitting my gender/orientation profile that's a good handful of new people a week at least. But, who I'm interested in for 'long-term dating'? Hmmm, I'm not sure about the whole 'LTR' thing, I mean, I don't think that's something you see immediately within the first 5 minutes of talking to someone. But, as for dating?

*Edit end/*

Actually, I take it back. Maybe 1x a week in a normal week to 2x a month, 1x a day (LOLZ) if I'm on vacation or otherwise 'out and about'. How far do those initial meetings go or lead to? Totally varies. More often then not, they don't pan out, but when they do, it's googly moogly giggly wiggly school girl crush time! :holy:

I think speaking of type, it's more like at any given moment there are always a small handful of potentials already in my life. Or people I try to talk to?

But, I kinda that was most single people "in their 20s".

I think I'm relatively picky and I'll say it -- VERY shallow (in some ways...at least I admit it!!! LOLZ) -- when it comes to who I find attractive, but I surprise myself. Meaning I'm surprised I've actually met as many people this year that I'm interested in for PG-13"dating".

Breaking it down mathematically to the folks who I've gotten as far as "talking to" or actually "dating" -- it averages to maybe 1 person a month so far this year. But, that's not really what you were looking for, right?

In answer to the other (real?) question I think you were asking -- I keep on pursuing things and/or letting things ride until they don't anymore. ;)

Soooo, what's the motivation for the question? Spill it, Nomad! :D

[Modern Nomad]

Can't say I've ever really done that anyway, you know the talk to/interact with on a somewhat daily basis. I likes my space.

How many potentials? Erm there's a zero and a decimal, that's all I know.

I'm thinking what's normal for an average introvert might be quite abnormal for an average extravert.

hmmm.... i guess for you, it might count as once a week on avg. then... hehe

i go thru ups and downs... actually. i can't not be in some sort of relationship. just a promise is enough actually... http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

[Jack Flak]

But, I kinda that was most single people "in their 20s".
And holding on to them for dear life.

Soooo, what's the motivation for the question? Spill it, Nomad! :D
Never ask Modern Nomad a question. You're tempting the Abyss.

[Modern Nomad]

Actually, I take it back. Maybe 1x a week in a normal week, 1x a day (LOLZ) if I'm on vacation or otherwise 'out and about'.

I think speaking of type, it's more like at any given moment there are always a small handful of potentials already in my life. Or people I try to talk to?

But, I kinda that was most single people "in their 20s".

hmmm yeah thats true huh?


Soooo, what's the motivation for the question? Spill it, Nomad! :D

hahahahaha

i can't say!
is it just me? i get a feeling like the moment i say it and talk about it, it becomes not real or one of them might be reading this...

ack!

[Modern Nomad]

Never ask Modern Nomad a question. You're tempting the Abyss.


LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!

this is hilarious!

hmm i never knew i gave off that impression...

eventually it fills up tho~ ;)

[CzeCze]

i can't say!
is it just me? i get a feeling like the moment i say it and talk about it, it becomes not real or one of them might be reading this...
ack!

Nomad has a cruuuuussh! :holy:

Don't worry we won't will tease you [mercilessly] about it. :D

[Modern Nomad]

Nomad has a cruuuuussh! :holy:

Don't worry we won't will tease you [mercilessly] about it. :D


LOL!

mmm...

u don't have enough to implicate me on!

my secret identity is still in tact! muahahaha~

dood. u are total vampire! 5am there isn't it?

[CzeCze]

You just totally insulted my lineage.

We are not 'vampires', we are 'infernal blood suckers', 'nnnnkay Mr. Politically Incorrect?

And dood, I'm in Cali right now, just like you.

Go to bed!

:harhar:

[Jack Flak]

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!...this is hilarious!...hmm i never knew i gave off that impression...eventually it fills up tho~ ;)
(I'll never forget the post in which you said Occam's Razor supported Egyptian fairy tales. Nor forgive. ;))

[Modern Nomad]

You just totally insulted my lineage.

We are not 'vampires', we are 'infernal blood suckers', 'nnnnkay Mr. Politically Incorrect?

And dood, I'm in Cali right now, just like you.

Go to bed!

:harhar:


ohhhhhh!!

yeah i should soon, but i gotta play the futures markets in 2 hours.

ur back? ohhh okay. ur just a weak sauce vampire then. haha~

[Modern Nomad]

(I'll never forget the post in which you said Occam's Razor supported Egyptian fairy tales. Nor forgive. ;))

HAHAHAHAHA

i suspected u might not.

well, Sumer and Egypt are two completely different civilizations! At least get it right! Anyways, Big Bang scientists are alive. Sumerians are dead. There is no one to support scientific thought on Sumerians anyways. Its a number of people vs. people thing imo.

[FDG]

:doh:

Nomad, you forgot this! ^^

FDG, you should totally be posting in the 'Why Should You Have Sex' thread. Or the 'I am a virile young male thread' (I'm sure there has to be one around here...)


I was joking :D I've had the same girlfriend since two years and something :blush:

[entropie]

So I was just wondering...

you know, u start talking to someone you are interested in, the opposite sex. And its normal to talk every day, or every other day or something like that...

I was wondering, how many do people usually talk to? Whats normal?

I still have problems finding out, if any Potentials are talking to me xD

[Beat]

No one right now. All alone.

[kuranes]

I thought this thread was maybe going to be about how many people I dismiss without even ever talking (but our eyes meet as strangers ) to them, and therefore lose the potential friend as a result. Probably a lot.

The moments that I realize this are when I'm in an odd frame of mind, having pulled an all nighter or something, and then encountering someone at a bus stop, grocery store, or laundromat etc. in a different frame of mind than usual. Maybe it will be someone a lot older than me, or someone else who for some reason I would have written off otherwise.

[pure_mercury]

Bleh I can't kiss someone that I don't have strong feelings for.


@ the OP: Umm well there's one guy right now that I could see myself with but I'm already seeing a conflict of belief systems that I think would get in the way :(

Which belief systems might they be?

[phoenix13]

zero. I keep my head down if I feel someone wants to chit chat, eat lunch at my desk behind closed doors, and avoid small talk like the plague. I only talk to my boss, supervisor, virtual peeps online, and my closest friends and family. I am not social.

I'm currently trying to change this. Sure, everyone around me is over 30, married, and has kids, but still... I gotta get out of my box!

[Oberon]

phee, how can you call yourself an E if that's what your life is like?!?

[SillyGoose]

Just one victim at a time :D

[colmena]

+1 to the nadas.

Should be shadowing occupational therapists soon. Will probably fall for a nutcase.

[Lateralus]

zero. I keep my head down if I feel someone wants to chit chat, eat lunch at my desk behind closed doors, and avoid small talk like the plague. I only talk to my boss, supervisor, virtual peeps online, and my closest friends and family. I am not social.

I'm currently trying to change this. Sure, everyone around me is over 30, married, and has kids, but still... I gotta get out of my box!
Are you sure you're an ENFP?

As for Nomad's OP, this varies depending on circumstance. When I'm settled into a routine, not many...a couple a week? When I break out of those routines, it's a lot higher, too high for me to keep track.

Who the hell cares what 'normal' is?

[phoenix13]

phee, how can you call yourself an E if that's what your life is like?!?

Are you sure you're an ENFP?


Have you read my posts? Have you seen the energy that oozes from my every sentence?!?!?!?! DO YOU SEE?!?!?!?!?!

Really though, E doesn't mean social. It means your dominant function is extroverted. I'm just currently in a place where everyone except my supervisor gets on my nerves with their constant chatter about shizah I don't care about. If I ask someone how they're doing, I get "Great! Little Suzie coughed up her cereal, but didn't die which is good because my husband is at work and thinks his teenage daughter's a slut and won't talk to him, as the weather is so hot in Balimore, but a little rain will help my plants grow that I pulled weeds out of last weekend after the dog pooped and we put him to sleep so he wouldn't bite little Suzie who broke these new shoes I just bought on sale. Aren't they the cutest?!" I DON'T CARE!!!

Now my supervisor, who is my mom's age, I talk to regularly. She's an ISTP. We talk about everything from religion, to man-boobs, and her family stories are actually interesting. She's the coolest.

[PinkPiranha]

That Suzie. What a nightmare!

[Lateralus]

I should probably use more emoticons so people can tell when I'm kidding around.

[PinkPiranha]

I should probably use more emoticons so people can tell when I'm kidding around.

I'm gonna toss your folders.

[Lateralus]

I'm gonna toss your folders.
I read this as "I'm gonna toss your.........folders".

[phoenix13]

I should probably use more emoticons so people can tell when I'm kidding around.

I'm glad you told me that, because I was pretty pissed. I just found the whole thing offensive, and I'm glad that I can finally put it aside, and move on with my life.*


*;);););)

[Lateralus]

Are you always this sarcastic?

[Hmm]

Did anyone else find the question, Nomad, and this whole thread funny?

For me it's 0-1.

[phoenix13]

Are you always this sarcastic?

... oh god, is that sarcasm? :unsure:
actually, this emoticon is more accurate (I'm sleep deprived)--> :wacko:

[Beat]

Are you always this sleep deprived?

[phoenix13]

Are you always this sleep deprived?

Response 1: Nah, only for the past 3-4 months.
Response 2: Hey, what the hell is that supposed to mean?! :threaten:

[colmena]

Response 1: Nah, only for the past 3-4 months.

I would take a break from the forum.

[whatever]

I would take a break from the forum.

^ meaning that colmena doesn't really like you and wants to hear less from you :devil:

and I'll sound really bad here by saying I've been intimatly involved with many more people than I'd really consider potentials- it's rare that I really click with someone I can talk and talk to and not get bored who would be able to be considered a potential :(

[colmena]

You ought to take a break, too.

[Lateralus]

When I'm in the electrical machines lab, I never bother speaking to the potentials.





+1 to anyone who knows what the hell I'm talking about.

[whatever]

You ought to take a break, too.

me?

I'm rarely here anymore! :laugh:

you, however, are here much more frequently! ;)

[colmena]

Some peoples' posts help me sleep.

[Members Only]

I'm lucky if I get one a year, let alone one a day. Weather that one turns into a relationship depends upon my mood at the time.

I don't tend to see many people as long-term material.

[phoenix13]

When I'm in the electrical machines lab, I never bother speaking to the potentials.


+1 to anyone who knows what the hell I'm talking about.

Voltage? When I read the title, I automatically thought of action potentials. It's not too far off metaphorically... a spark between two synapses, transient increase in voltage, action ;)...hot stuff.

[Lateralus]

Voltage? When I read the title, I automatically thought of action potentials. It's not too far off metaphorically... a spark between two synapses, transient increase in voltage, action ;)...hot stuff.
I think I've fallen in love with you.

wait, I should probably put an emoticon in there...or maybe not... :alttongue:

[Maabus1999]

Long term? Ummmm, not many....

Maybe one a month?

I find girls I would date pretty often but yeah depth of character is usually not there, at least what I'm looking for.

[FDG]

When I'm in the electrical machines lab, I never bother speaking to the potentials.





+1 to anyone who knows what the hell I'm talking about.

rotfl, super nerdy joke

[Tallulah]

Voltage? When I read the title, I automatically thought of action potentials. It's not too far off metaphorically... a spark between two synapses, transient increase in voltage, action ;)...hot stuff.

I think I've fallen in love with you.

wait, I should probably put an emoticon in there...or maybe not... :alttongue:

http://cache02.stormap.sapo.pt/fotostore01/fotos//43/8e/18/45621_000p07c8.jpg

;)

[EffEmDoubleyou]

I don't know that I've ever had anyone that I talked to every day or every other day except for coworkers (for work purposes, obviously) and one particularly serious girlfriend. I'm going to have to say zero.

[CzeCze]

Eek, how about devoid of frequency? Without even frequent contact? Just potentials?

PS You J's are so literal. :)

PPS P's need to word their OP's better. *Ahem* Nomad. :whistling:

[EffEmDoubleyou]

Eek, how about devoid of frequency? Without even frequent contact? Just potentials?

Maybe once every month or two. But if I have a current crush, I usually don't think of anyone else like that until the crush passes.

[CzeCze]

Maybe once every month or two. But if I have a current crush, I usually don't think of anyone else like that until the crush passes.

Awwww, that's so sweet!

I take back every horrible thing I've ever said about INT --

:shock:

I mean, that's really sweet...

:D

Hmm...I wonder if Nomad also has the same modus operandi of focusing on just one girl?

I'm still waiting to hear your back-story on this Nomad.

[Modern Nomad]

PPS P's need to word their OP's better. *Ahem* Nomad. :whistling:

UMMMM I cleared it up in the bottom of the first page!!!

u mean i should edit my first post? oh...




Hmm...I wonder if Nomad also has the same modus operandi of focusing on just one girl?

I'm still waiting to hear your back-story on this Nomad.

it depends. sometimes i do focus on one girl. but if i do focus on one girl, i might not give her time to get "hungry" and call/text/contact me... which in that case, i have to spread my attention so she doesn't feel suffocated... and sometimes it takes me a while to get to know her, so i know if she is the one and all that good stuff... but yeah, there are times i focused solely on one girl, and i knew no matter how much i called, or contacted her, she wouldn't feel suffocated...

HAHA!! I can't go into details... but dood, my situation, it changes... lately i notice how different people make me feel "motivation" about the future... it gets to the point where my destiny is almost not in my own hands, i just have obligations bc of things i said or things i did, and then feelings follow those... its weird.

[phoenix13]

I think I've fallen in love with you.

wait, I should probably put an emoticon in there...or maybe not... :alttongue:
:smooch:
When in doubt, bananallama: :bananallama:

http://cache02.stormap.sapo.pt/fotostore01/fotos//43/8e/18/45621_000p07c8.jpg

;)

Yessssssssss! I've always aspired to be a nerd. Victory is mine!

Sorry for fluffing up your thread, Nomad...

[Oberon]

Have you read my posts? Have you seen the energy that oozes from my every sentence?!?!?!?! DO YOU SEE?!?!?!?!?!


Yes! I see! You type the most extroverted communications into your computer that I've ever seen!!! :D

[Oberon]

I think I've fallen in love with you.


It's impossible not to. The phoenix is just like that. :yes:

[Rachelinpa]

LTR potentials... probably zero, also. Ugh.

This could have something to do with it:

Miami residents are most attractive in U.S.: poll - Yahoo! News (http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080911/lf_nm_life/miami_dc_1)

On the other hand, I have crushes all the time, but thankfully they end nearly as quickly as they start before I become too psycho. I still get admittedly obsessive about it though.

[CzeCze]

On the other hand, I have crushes all the time, but thankfully they end nearly as quickly as they start before I become too psycho.

ENFPs get psycho over crushes?

No!

Never!

:whistling:

Umm....at least not anymore (for this one)

Don't look at me like that!

And Nomad, I think the way male and female ENFPs operate when it comes to courtship/romance is very different. Maybe because of different gender expectations and conditioning and roles, ENFP males seem to get even more involved and emotionally invested (quickly) in romantic involvements than their female counterparts.

Probably because males are expected to be the pursuers and females just need to get the males to pursue them.

[Grayscale]

potential what?

i dont know what that's supposed to mean here, but im guessing my answer is zero on the vast majority of days.

[Tallulah]

On a daily, regular basis? None. It's like friggin' Halley's Comet, finding that rare person you're really interested in.

[Lithium]

quite a few, but not that many in comparison to the volume I speak to in a day. in the mean time they can only be potential and what does that even mean...

[Hmm]

The wording of the question was totally hilarious (i.e. "so you guys can remember each others "essence") but I just took it upon myself to assume that he meant potential for a relationship.

[ZiL]

Virtually none. ever. I barely talk to any guys period, though. There just aren't many that I happen to sit by and have a reason to talk to.... The ones that I do manage to talk to, are guys that I already know I won't click with, and so they just become casual class/work friends or whatever. People to chat with because it's convenient, nothing more.

None of my friends have any better luck. That map that was put up in another thread with male/female population disparities in the U.S. - there's a nice little red dot right on my town, so that might have something to with it.

[01011010]

On a daily, regular basis? None. It's like friggin' Halley's Comet, finding that rare person you're really interested in.

Hear, Hear or Here?

[Delilah]

Maybe not every day, but I would say there are at least a few potentials every week. Most are pretty short lived since I don't have a great attention span.
It also seems that when one goes away, or I lose interest, I just as quickly come across a replacement or two.

I have more than a few this week. :D


I guess that's a nice benefit to being flaky.

[Terian]

I'm going to say .125 a day, perhaps. Probably less. Mostly because I have a brain that is years ahead of my peers. That's not pretentious- it's truth.

[01011010]

Ummm... None.