Love Languages for SPs

[istpunk]

Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch.

For Quality Time, I think that's always in the top 3 of anyone's list so let's not include that.

For me as an ISTP it's 1. Receiving Gifts and 2. Acts of Service and 3. Words of Affirmation

I've come across ESTPs and they seem to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Words of Affirmation and 3. Physical Touch.

not sure about ESFPs.

ISFPs I think it seems to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Physical Touch 3. Receiving Gifts.

[Jeffster]

Food, Football, and Fuhhhh...physical touch. :alttongue:

[Randomnity]

I kinda see acts of service as equivalent to gifts.

So I'd rank them 1. physical touch 2. acts of service/gifts (if personal) 3. affirming words 4. gifts (if nonpersonal, ex flowers)

I think they're all important for everyone though, to varying degrees.

edit: quality time would be first, if you're counting that now.

[Grayscale]

i like to give:

1) acts of service
2) physical touch/quality time
3) words of affirmation
4) gifts


to receive:

1) quality time
2) physical touch
3) acts of service
4) words of affirmation
5) gifts

[aguanile]

1) words of affirmation
2) acts of service
3) physical touch

[Kleinheiko]

I'm an ISTP, and I've had a really hard time typing my love language. I'm probably Quality time, even though some people don't really believe in it. I also speak Acts of service.

[sarah]

Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch.

For Quality Time, I think that's always in the top 3 of anyone's list so let's not include that.

For me as an ISTP it's 1. Receiving Gifts and 2. Acts of Service and 3. Words of Affirmation

I've come across ESTPs and they seem to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Words of Affirmation and 3. Physical Touch.

not sure about ESFPs.

ISFPs I think it seems to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Physical Touch 3. Receiving Gifts.


For me, it's:

1. Words of affirmation
2. Physical touch
3. Quality time

Gifts and acts of service are great, but not quite as essential as the Big Three.

Sarah
ISFP

[alicia91]

Is this supposed to be what I appreciate from others or how I express my love?

[Usehername]

alicia91 Is this supposed to be what I appreciate from others or how I express my love?
Today 07:59 PM

It's supposed to be how you feel most loved (quality time--when someone focuses on you as an individual, truly listens to what you're saying, etc.; physical touch--when someone gives you a pat on the shoulder, a hug, an affirming head-pat, sex, etc.; words of affirmation--verbal expressions of your unique qualities and value as a person; acts of service--taking out the garbage, doing your laundry, helping you move, mowing the lawn, etc.; gifts--tokens, small and not so small tangible, material things given to you that show they thought about you and thought that you were worth their money to buy something or time to craft something for you).


My strongest is definitely quality time to discuss ideas and thoughts and feelings and interpretations of events and philosophical issues. As a shadow SP, I find that touch isn't so important to me until I'm a little stressed, even with very small things to the point where I'm not even aware I'm stressed--I really relish touch when I'm stressed.

[Jeffster]

What, is this out of some book or something?

[rhinosaur]

1. Physical Touch
2. Acts of Service
3. Words of Affirmation (close call, ranks about as high as Acts of Service)
4. Quality Time
5. Receiving Gifts (trails behind like the fat kid running the 100m sprint)

[sarah]

What, is this out of some book or something?


Yeppers. I first saw it at my library. Here's the guy's website:

The Five Love Languages (http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/)

The website even comes with a two-second quiz to help you choose your fav. love language. Not very helpful, but if you click on any of the boxes, it gives you a description of each...

My problem is, I have a hard time choosing one of my top three preferred Love Languages as my favorite (physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation). I'd feel "unloved" if any of them were missing.


Sarah
ISFP

[Sunshine]

1. Gifts
2. Physical touch
3. Quality time
4. Words of affirmation
5. Acts of service

[alicia91]

Ok - got it.

1. Acts of Service
2. Quality Time
3. Words of Affirmation

[INTJMom]

I have a husband and a son who are both ISTPs.
One wants acts of service.
One wants gifts.

[InaF3157]

The Five Love Languages (http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/)

The website even comes with a two-second quiz to help you choose your fav. love language. Not very helpful, but if you click on any of the boxes, it gives you a description of each...

Sarah
ISFP
Here's a link with a quiz: GreaterQuest - 5 love Languages Quiz (http://greaterquest.com/LoveLanguages.asp)

[yukino2002]

1. Physical Touch
2. Acts of Service
3. Words of Affirmation
4. Gifts

[InaF3157]

10 Physical Touch
10 Quality Time
6 Acts of Service
4 Words of Affirmation
0 Receiving of Gifts

[Lateralus]

10 Quality Time
9 Physical Touch
8 Acts of Service
3 Words of Affirmation
0 Receiving of Gifts

I'm not an SP, though. ;)

[ThatGirl]

All these words of affirmation and acts of service....

No wonder my ESTP thought he was always getting the brush off

[Lateralus]

All these words of affirmation and acts of service....

No wonder my ESTP thought he was always getting the brush off
Your ESTP? Quite possessive you are.

["?"]

I have a husband and a son who are both ISTPs.
One wants acts of service.
One wants gifts.So was this receiving or giving or either. I clearly will give acts of service, however not necessarily want it in return. I would find verbal affirmations surprising even for extraverted types since SPs (or at least me) would prefer to do than talk. I would say
1. Acts of Service
2. Quality Time
Very distant follow-ups (and not necessarily in any certain order):
Receiving Gifts
Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation

[aguanile]

My quiz scores were very close to what I thought.

8 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
4 Receiving of Gifts
3 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

[HomeSlice]

11 Words of Affirmation
9 Physical Touch
6 Quality Time
Receiving of Gifts and Acts of Service = insignificant

[Jeffster]

HomeSlice, I liked your old avatar better. That one is just freaky.

[Quinlan]

9 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
9 Physical Touch
2 Receiving of Gifts
1 Acts of Service