INFJ vs. his genes

[Wyst]

I just moved to Dallas a month ago. I think I'm settling in nicely but there's one major problem. I only have two friends up here and my few closest friends are hours away at best.

Without those friends to drag me out of my apartment my reclusive habits are really starting to take over and I'm beginning to think I'll have a really hard time meeting someone up here at this rate.

So I'd like to poll you women on how comfortable you are with random guys coming up to you and giving you their number/asking for yours?

I don't think I have a social awkwardness that's against me.
I'm full-time employed with a solid company, not crazy ugly, AND I'm an INFJ. Maybe that should be my pick-up line.

I dunno. Help! How the hell is an INFJ supposed to meet people without friends to intro him to people/get him out of his apartment??

[Kyrielle]

Sorry, but I voted for the first four. I equate it with people on the street asking me to go to dinner with them. Considerably creepy. In most cases, people like that are also up to no good even if you truly aren't.

Anyway. You could try to...go for walks? Go wander around a library? Go outside somewhere public to ponder? Make yourself get out of your apartment. I'm in a similar situation as you, but I think it's probably best to try to not depend on other people to get you out and about. Sure, it'll help to have other people, but it wouldn't solve the problem completely for you. (The problem would be your over-reclusive tendencies conflicting with your desire to have friends and be with people every once in a while.)

[prplchknz]

I picked all of them because it depends on the guy and my state of mind at the time.

[Wyst]

Anyway. You could try to...go for walks? Go wander around a library? Go outside somewhere public to ponder? Make yourself get out of your apartment. I'm in a similar situation as you, but I think it's probably best to try to not depend on other people to get you out and about. Sure, it'll help to have other people, but it wouldn't solve the problem completely for you. (The problem would be your over-reclusive tendencies conflicting with your desire to have friends and be with people every once in a while.)

See that's the deal.. if you don't have friends to go out/hang out with then you're still a lone person walking around or whatever. How is that supposed to help you meet people.

And if you did try to befriend someone while you're out walking, how is that any different from giving them your number/myspace?

[Kyrielle]

I don't know. Maybe because you were physically speaking to them, instead of handing out a means of contact that is not physical and immediately creates distance which makes the initial bonding a little awkward. It seems odd to go "Hey, I don't know you, but could you contact me over a machine instead of getting to know me right here and now or even later?"

But then maybe I'm a crackpot. Because I don't readily hand out my number/e-mail to people. I only give it to them if I've already had a conversation and gotten to know them a little and decided that, yes, I would in fact like this person to be able to talk to me anytime/where.

[01011010]

It's probably better that you get to know the female target a little bit before giving your number. At least, have hung out with aforementioned individual a time or two. When trying to make a connection, it should never come off desperate or needy. Usually women are wary of strangers giving them their number.

[Desert Flower]

I would say join some sort of common interest group or something. Its easier to meet people in a context. Instead of coming off as an oddball walking through a park and passing out his number to attractive women.

*But then again it depends on how charming you are. (No...I take that back...its still scary.)

[Tallulah]

You could come to MBTIc meetups in your area. :whistling:

[Silently Honest]

What she said.^

[unconvinced]

How the hell is an INFJ supposed to meet people without friends to intro him to people/get him out of his apartment??

:hug:

i voted sweet but no, but if you gave your number to an extroverted girl, she might call (i can't even call people i know!)

[Trinity]

Either think it's sweet... but no or give him a fake number to make him go away would be my normal reaction although decide to call him later, finally a guy had the balls to make a move would be possible if the guy did more than walk up to me randomly and gave me a number, if we struck up a good conversation then at the end, in an unrehearsed manner, he offered his number, I might be receptive. Otherwise it would seem like he was playing a statistics game and passing out his number to anyone trying to use odds on his side, I couldn’t believe he had good intentions in that situation.

[faith]

I would feel free to judge him on his looks and demeanor since that's evidently how he was judging me when he gave me his number. (Unless he's handing them out to every girl he walks by...) If he managed to make a particularly wonderful impression, I might consider calling him later. But probably not. Just the fact that he's interested in me isn't enough; he needs to make me interested in him. A phone number and shy grin probably wouldn't do it. Talk to me. Make me laugh. Get to know me. Let me see how smart/funny/wise/friendly you are. And I don't really like talking on the phone, anyway.

[Alpha Prime]

I just moved to Dallas a month ago. I think I'm settling in nicely but there's one major problem. I only have two friends up here and my few closest friends are hours away at best.

Without those friends to drag me out of my apartment my reclusive habits are really starting to take over and I'm beginning to think I'll have a really hard time meeting someone up here at this rate.

So I'd like to poll you women on how comfortable you are with random guys coming up to you and giving you their number/asking for yours?

I don't think I have a social awkwardness that's against me.
I'm full-time employed with a solid company, not crazy ugly, AND I'm an INFJ. Maybe that should be my pick-up line.

I dunno. Help! How the hell is an INFJ supposed to meet people without friends to intro him to people/get him out of his apartment??

I suppose the bright side is that, whatever happens, you're fucked!