INFJ and ENFJ

[polkadotstars]

I just ended a relationship with an ESTP. I couldn't deal with the non-F part And with the non-J.Any input?

[sciski]

Wandering hasn't been around for a while, but she is blissfully married to an ENFJ. I think if you've got an ENFJ, grab on and don't let go. :D

PS- Handcuffs are another option that would be greatly appreciated by your ENFJ.

[Silently Honest]

Don't do it, it's like kissing your sister.

I'm kidding do whatever you like. ;)

[Sunshine8]

I just ended a relationship with an ESTP. I couldn't deal with the non-F part, I have to be with someone romantic! And with the non-J. I couldn't stand his messes.
Now onto ENFJ. Any input? Any INFJs ever dated an ENFJ before?

I have dated a male INFJ (I am a female ENFJ) and if was an amazing relationship - practically perfect - but the only thing I would watch is the tendency towards co-dependance. It is hard when you both want to think the same and like the same things to hang on to your own identity at times.

Our friends used to call us a fusion of our two names as a joke...because it became like that.

[PinkPiranha]

Don't do it, it's like kissing your sister.

I'm kidding do whatever you like. ;)

Dude. I've kissed a guy that was like kissing my brother. I felt exactly like Lea Thompson in "Back to the Future".

*shudders*

As much as I love INFJs, that would be too much Ni and Fe flying around. I need someone not like me to cut the tempest. Ultimately, yes, SH is right - it's your call.

[murkrow]

There are romantic Ts.

[evan]

yeah my first GF was an ENFJ. the biggest problem was that i found her to be quite irrational. her insight into people was always spot on, and we agreed on most abstract issues. but when it came to the specifics of our relationship, we didn't quite see eye to eye -- i was too withdrawn for her; she needed too much positive reinforcement.

a few things about why you shouldn't apply this to all ENFJs:
a) i was 16/she was 17 when we started dating
b) it was my first real relationship, and i was completely detached from reality my whole life until her. i had no idea what was going on (from an intuitive psychological perspective), and she was years and years ahead of me in that sense
c) it was the first time she was actually in love
d) she was more mature than most people around her and couldn't relate to them, so when she found me, someone she could actually relate to, she expected more from me than a person could give
e) i have no idea how the relationship would have progressed/ended because she unexpectedly died about a year and a half in. it probably would've dragged on far too long and ended quite dramatically, with the unhealthy on and offs lasting forever...(it already was past the point where it should have ended, but we were both too immature to do anything about it)

hope that helps somewhat. just remember, don't choose someone based on type. it's pointless.

[Brendan]

I just ended a relationship with an ESTP. I couldn't deal with the non-F part, I have to be with someone romantic! And with the non-J. I couldn't stand his messes.
Now onto ENFJ. Any input? Any INFJs ever dated an ENFJ before?
F's don't really have a monopoly on romance. And when T's are romantic it's so fucking cute I can't stand it.

That being said: Hi. How are you? What would you like to know about this ENFJ in particular?

[Maabus1999]

I just ended a relationship with an ESTP. I couldn't deal with the non-F part, I have to be with someone romantic! And with the non-J. I couldn't stand his messes.
Now onto ENFJ. Any input? Any INFJs ever dated an ENFJ before?

T and F has nothing to do with "romantic" per say. Some may be more inclined but don't stereotype.

[ceecee]

PS- Handcuffs are another option that would be greatly appreciated by your ENFJ.

Yes. Very appreciated. :yes:

[Peguy]

I dont have much experience with ENFJs, so I really can't say. Now ENFPs OTOH. ;)

Wandering hasn't been around for a while, but she is blissfully married to an ENFJ.

Yes Wandering's absence is a great loss for this place. It's been at least a few months since I last talked to her. :(

[ByMySword]

I've been trying to find a female ENTP for the longest.

My luck sucks. :cry: