ENFP wants to understand INFP

[Mighty Mouse]

I am an ENFP and am getting to know an INFP I met online.

We have shared long emails and phone conversations for over 4 months.

I finally proposed meeting where I would make all the arrangements. That was 2 weeks ago but he hasn't mentioned it or said to go ahead and book anything.

I know we like each other.

How long before an INFP would feel ok to meet?

How long before an INFP will make any "us" or "in our future" kind of comments?

[runvardh]

Hmm, I'd normally jump at that chance unless I didn't have the green to float the travel bill. Then again, I'd say I didn't have the money. I think I'll let others weigh in on this first, though.

[Udog]

There is much you left out. From your other thread, it's clear there is a romantic element. However, how far apart are you guys? How much money and time would a meet up require?

In general, I agree with runvardh that I'd want to meet sooner rather than later. However, it's not hard for me to believe that this INFP may be shy, or scared that meeting in person will ruin the connection you already have.

How did he react when you initially made the proposal?

[Mighty Mouse]

Yes, there is a romantic element.

I live in NJ he is in VA.

With the flight and hotel it would be about $500. All of which I would pay and arrange.

As far as the proposal, I tried to respect him by doing it over email. My thought was that this way I wouldn't put him on the spot during a conversation and he could think about it.

His email response was that it sounded great but that he had to check his schedule. That was 2 weeks ago.

I asked him about the proposal when we spoke a few days later. I asked if he was ok with the proposal and if he was ready. He assured me he was. But the truth is it sounded to me like he felt he should be ready but was not completely convinced.

I can see what you mean about being scared to lose the connection. I am too. I am just more excited about the potential.

Thanks for the help ;)

[runvardh]

Did he give you a schedule, did you give him some date and time options?

[Mighty Mouse]

Yes, I did.

I proposed Columbus Day weekend which is in October. He is a teacher and I figured we could have almost 3 days without him having to take any time off.

I also said if he thought there would be a better time to let me know because I had vacation time I'd be willing to take.

[runvardh]

This is why it's tough to get things going when the situation is two Ps. Sounds like he doesn't have a problem with it, start talking to him real time and do some planing.

[Udog]

With the flight and hotel it would be about $500. All of which I would pay and arrange.

He may be afraid to bring the topic back up, considering you are doing all the work and he doesn't want to impose or push. You may want to ask him if he would prefer to help pay for or plan the trip. Let him get involved!

I can see what you mean about being scared to lose the connection. I am too. I am just more excited about the potential.

This is such an ENFP response - always eager to explore the possibilities. I love it!

[Mighty Mouse]

You are right! lol I am a very true ENFP.

I am trying my best to be patient and respect his need for time and space. I fear scaring him off with exuberance while he probably fears not going fast enough to keep me around.

Thanks for the help;)