An Old Ex.

[Shadowrose]

So, I'm looking for a forum to get advice on this particular topic, and I hesitate to go to my friends, since each one has a very, very strong opinion regarding this specific situation. So, here I am.

Basically, one specific person tends to periodically take over my thoughts for small lengths of time and it's rather a bit frustrating. I rarely talk to her, I never see her, and we have little to nothing in common. The thing is, we dated for two years, but broke up 3 years ago. I've even started and finished another relationship since, but even while that was going on occasionally this previous ex would materialize in my mind and I couldn't get rid of the thoughts. The thing is, I'm not entirely comfortable talking to her about this.. I'm just not sure it'd be at all appreciated and I'm fairly certain that it'd end fairly poorly.

I think she's an ESFJ, from what I can recall about her, if that's any matter. Any advice on how to handle this would be very, very welcome. It's becoming bothersome.

[disregard]

1. Why is it frustrating when she enters your thoughts? What, precisely, leaves you feeling that way? Dig deep.. The answer to your woes may lie there.
2. How do you feel about her now?

[Shadowrose]

1. Why is it frustrating when she enters your thoughts? What, precisely, leaves you feeling that way? Dig deep.. The answer to your woes may lie there.

Mostly because the thoughts are futile and incapable of going anywhere. I don't like entertaining pointless thoughts, and these.. are.

2. How do you feel about her now?

I enjoy her company and have made peace that it isn't company I frequently get the pleasure of having.

[disregard]

Ah, so you still harbor romantic feelings for her?

Because whatever it is, you need to face it dead on.

[Shadowrose]

On some level, yes. But, as I said, I'm fairly certain they won't be reciprocated and have come to terms with that. That's why it's so frustrating that I can't make the thoughts go away. ^__^