I kissed an ESFJ; I liked it.

[Mort Belfry]

Am I an idiot? Should I be avoiding these people?

I've hooked up with this guy a couple of times, but I have a feeling he'll want a relationship beyond the physical. I also feel like I'll just fold and go with it.

But we are completely different people and haven't had much chance of having a conversation alone.

But INTP --- ESFJ, am I playing with fire?

[Night]

But INTP --- ESFJ, am I playing with fire?

Yes.

But, why let that stop you?

If you genuinely enjoy his company, expect to traverse inevitable boundaries. This is the only way to advance the sophistication of your relationship.

[Mort Belfry]

If you genuinely enjoy his company, expect to traverse inevitable boundaries.

I only enjoy his company because he's hot. As far as I can tell we have nothing in common.

[Magic Poriferan]

I only enjoy his company because he's hot. As far as I can tell we have nothing in common.

Well, if that's really the case, then you should probably back off. It would be really foolish to walk into all of this if sexual attraction is the only thing that's drawing you.

[CzeCze]

I only enjoy his company because he's hot. As far as I can tell we have nothing in common.

LOL.

The point of dating is to see what falls away after pure lust subsides. If you truly have nothing in common, are not compatible, have no chemistry outside the physical, and are not willing and ready for it -- you'll part ways (hopefully amicably).

The important thing is to be honest with yourselves and each other as to your expectations.

He may just be less casual than you and not into doing just hook-ups but he may not be looking for a bf either.

As far as the type thing -- who cares? Type is trumped by actual RL chemistry. Type itself can only be used to prop up the opinion you've already formed but otherwise it's but one theoretical variable you can choose to interpret and ultimately ignore.

I kissed an ESXJ once, too. Actually, more than once. It was hot. We had 'nothing in common' either. And we were quite into each other.

Soooo, to sum it up:

If you don't want to go through with it, don't.

If you do, then do.

I think type is not really the issue here.

[Jen]

Just do it. You know you want to. :devil:

[heart]

I kissed an ESFJ; I liked it.


I wondered what had happened to you. :shock:

If you think you'd get pulled by the undertow and unable to break it off later should you be unhappy (smothered/bored), then that's a serious reason not to start a relationship. Otherwise I would say just let it run its course and see what happens.

[Hmm]

Am I an idiot? Should I be avoiding these people?

I've hooked up with this guy a couple of times, but I have a feeling he'll want a relationship beyond the physical. I also feel like I'll just fold and go with it.

But we are completely different people and haven't had much chance of having a conversation alone.

But INTP --- ESFJ, am I playing with fire?


Do it. You never know, he may make you happy. Stranger things have happened. ;)

[Beat]

Who cares about types? Go with it, see what happens.

Edit: Just read rest of thread-- nevermind, you're only around for the physical attraction aspect. So why does it seem like a good idea to take this into a relationship?

[animenagai]

sometimes opposite attracts. sometimes. don't look for similarities, just whether or not you have fun talking to him etc. it's all chemistry. if you're attracted to him, beyond the physical lust, then go for it. if not, then you're playing with fire.