How do you react when someone pisses you off?

[Mo_(operalover)]

It takes A LOT to get me angry but when that does happen, I stew & stew & stew on the inside and completely detach from that person. If the person is civil, I can quite quickly get over what made me angry and get back to being friends with them BUT if someone mocked an aspect of my personality either expressly or in an implied manner (and it's not done in jest), then I NEVER forgive them. EVER. I might get back to being civil but not close/friendly.

How do you other SPs express your anger?

[Samuel De Mazarin]

I'm not an SP but that's how I react...

[Jeffster]

Heh. Well, I'm a bit of a hothead, but I've now been on medication for blood pressure and heart rate for a while so I'm calmer than I used to be when I'm pissed off. I still can feel the inner Hulk rising within me, though. ;) My face turns red easily and I scowl and my brain starts cursing and thinking really mean things, but I usually don't let most of that come out, I will often take it out on inanimate objects like if I'm in the office, I have thrown things like sticky note pads and papers and stuff. When I'm driving, I pretty much just call the bad drivers names in my head.

I tend to forgive most people really quickly, actually. I often make excuses for people's behavior, or I find reasons why I should be more upset at myself than somebody else. The only people that it takes me a long time to forgive are those that truly hurt me very deeply like my ex-wife. It took me several years to forgive her but I finally did a few years ago, and it was good to have that burden off me.

In general, I don't usually stay pissed off very long. It comes in short bursts that are quickly gone and I can be laughing and smiling a few minutes after somebody made me really mad. I tend to stay mad at myself much longer than other people.

[alicia91]

I never lose my temper. I tend to confront people who are close to me directly (like friends and family), and with people I don't know as well, I'll usually get back to them later once I've had a chance to think things through a bit, at which point I might call them or email, etc. So I tend to very directly and logically tell people what it is they are doing that doesn't sit well with me.

But I'm also quite quick to forgive and forget so often I don't get around to sending that email or writing that letter of complaint. Usually once I've had a chance to think about it I run it through my filter of "how important is this in the scheme of life?" If it's not, I tend to just let it roll off my back.

[colmena]

I talk to them immediately: logically and calmly.

I also flood them with pretentious theory and complex vocab.

I usually 'win'.


If I'm dealing with immaturity (children, adults who think like children), I will be very calm and stern, or just unflinchingly stare into their eyes (with feeling) until they breakdown/start to cry. There's something about breaking convention that gets through to people deeper than social cues.

After that, things always seem more harmonious for everyone, and I can build them back up as a friend.

[digesthisickness]

i'm ENTP too, but since another one posted saying something different, then i figured i'd speak up and say how:

it takes a lot to truly piss me off too (most of the time, it's over a perceived injustice-either against me or someone truly defenseless-this can come in a variety of forms), so it usually only happens if i feel totally in the right.

i tell them exactly why i'm pissed and if pissed enough, i'll do it in a very belittling, usually loud (for maximum humiliation) fashion, thus forcing them to either back the hell off or continue the fight. if they choose the latter, then being that i'm confident i was right to be pissed (since, again, it takes a LOT), then it's "go time". at that point, i figure they deserve whatever they get as they chose continue it, and i finish it via whatever means they choose to take it.

[PinkPiranha]

I arm Digest with a hammer and fling her toward my enemies. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout, haters!!!

[Haight]

it takes a lot to truly piss me off too (most of the time, it's over a perceived injustice-either against me or someone truly defenseless-this can come in a variety of forms), so it usually only happens if i feel totally in the right. *resists the obvious challenge*

[Thursday]

i act like nothing happened
silently rationalizing my emotion

but i have yet to meet someone that

1. pisses me off
2. that i would respect enough to tell them anything

[digesthisickness]

I arm Digest with a hammer and fling her toward my enemies. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout, haters!!!

heh. i said 'someone truly defenseless', and i don't get that vibe from you.

*resists the obvious challenge*

i honestly can't imagine you pissing me off. it'd have to be something very extreme, since from what i know of you, you seem pretty cool.

[Haight]

i honestly can't imagine you pissing me off. it'd have to be something very extreme, since from what i know of you, you seem pretty cool.Challenge accepted!

So . . . what's your favorite football team?

[digesthisickness]

Challenge accepted!

So . . . what's your favorite football team?

psht... football.

but, i did think of something. if you ever radically hurt notta, i'd be really pissed. someone vulnerable due to being 'in love' falls under 'defenseless'.

[Haight]

psht... football.

but, i did think of something. if you ever radically hurt notta, i'd be really pissed. someone vulnerable due to being 'in love' falls under 'defenseless'.Define "radically."

[digesthisickness]

Define "radically."

something so bad that she lost the will to fight for herself and/or caused her to begin rationalizing being hurt by you.

[Haight]

something so bad that she lost the will to fight for herself and/or caused her to begin rationalizing being hurt by you.That sounds like a lot of work. Are you sure that there isn't anything else I could do to piss you off and witness your reaction?

(What's the thread about, anyway?)

[digesthisickness]

That sounds like a lot of work. Are you sure that there isn't anything else I could do to piss you off and witness your reaction?

(What's the thread about, anyway?)

that's why it would piss me off!

because it would normally take a LOT for her to get to that point. which means you'd deserve whatever came your way!

...

no, sorry, can't think of anything else. really, i tried. i did, but that's it. i'm afraid you need another patsy.

actually, you should try that. maybe it'll work!

[Haight]

that's why it would piss me off!

because it would normally take a LOT for her to get to that point. which means you'd deserve whatever came your way!

...

no, sorry, can't think of anything else. really, i tried. i did, but that's it. i'm afraid you need another patsy.

actually, you should try that. maybe it'll work!Okay then, you leave me without any other options.

*goes to talk to notta*

[digesthisickness]

Okay then, you leave me without any other options.

*goes to talk to notta*

i hope she's already fired up about something else entirely and when you stroll in with that smile on your face, all you hear before trying and failing to dodge the chair is, "your face pisses me off!"

[Little Linguist]

Oh, gee......

Everyone sounds so calm and rational.

I'm a regular fire ball. I'm hot-blooded, hot-tempered, and - well - a hot loaded gun. So if you piss me off, I'm going off on a tangent that'll make you wanna scream, "MOMMYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!" (Or kick my ass). Roaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:blush: Guess I'm the only one.

Oh, yeah. Little things tend to piss me off more than big things. Big things challenge me and make me go into "Rational Thinker's Phase." Little things just make me go:

RAAAAOOOOWWWWW. Meow, meow, HISSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!

If that makes any sense, which it probably doesn't. Oh crap, I probably shouldn't have admitted that, but oh well, who cares?! It's only the Internet.

[disregard]

It varies..

My responses are tailored to the individual and the circumstance.

If my anger stems from hurt, I will most often become emotionally withdrawn and terse in my exchanges with the individual until I no longer feel that way.

If it stems from annoyance (say.. invasion of privacy or boundaries, disrespect) and I choose to confront it, I will be direct and assertive. Raised eyebrows and all that good stuff.

[Jeffster]

Oh, gee......

Everyone sounds so calm and rational.


I can assure you that I'm not rational or very calm when I'm pissed off. ;)

[Little Linguist]

I can assure you that I'm not rational or very calm when I'm pissed off. ;)

Ohhhh whewwwwwwwww!!!!!!


I'm not the only one!!! :D

[millerm277]

It's very difficult to piss me off, I have an extremely high tolerance of behavior, but if someone does, I'll generally just confront them and try to get them to change it. If that doesn't work, I'll just stay away from them. Not worth my time and effort to do more than that.

[Little Linguist]

It's very difficult to piss me off, I have an extremely high tolerance of behavior, but if someone does, I'll generally just confront them and try to get them to change it. If that doesn't work, I'll just stay away from them. Not worth my time and effort to do more than that.

Geez, I wish I had a high tolerance for behavior. In fact, I'm not tolerant at all.

[heart]

I'll usually confront them on what I think they've done and give them the chance to respond or correct the issue, if I consider the relationship worth the effort.

If I don't consider the relationship worth the effort or if it is something that's gone on so long I am giving up hope of resolving the issues, I'll withdraw from them. Anger is a real energy waster for me, makes me feel sick. I try not to let myself get angry too much anymore, it's not worth the energy drain for me.

I rarely get really mad. I tend to get mildly irked more often and when that happens I am more likely to become impish about it and that's just good fun.

[entropie]

I guess that is some of the advantages of having a split personality accompanieng a twisting brain.

You never get really mad at anyone, because you didn't know their names in the first place xD

[PinkPiranha]

If I'm furious, I'll turn the bullwhip loose. If I'm beyond furious, I just stand there shaking. Anger makes me feel physically ill.

[entropie]

Yea that is exactly the way some people I talk to behave. Any suggestions how I can help them become free of their anger ? :D

[heart]

Yea that is exactly the way some people I talk to behave. Any suggestions how I can help them become free of their anger ? :D

Stop pissing them off! :D

[PinkPiranha]

Stop pissing them off! :D

Give them $20!

[entropie]

Haha, will try but I bet that pisses them even more off xD

[heart]

Haha, will try but I bet that pisses them even more off xD

Then you've got real problems, eh? :devil:

[entropie]

Dont think so, I am quick. i was goal keeper, when I played soccer. they still have to overcome my evading strategies xD

[PinkPiranha]

Geez. 30 DOLLARS?!

[entropie]

okok :D

*grabs the 30 dollars and leaves*

[PinkPiranha]

I have rid the thread of a menace! :D

[Nocapszy]

My reaction, long ago, was to stop caring about people.

Works pretty good. I get to do what I want, and they get to call me a dick/sociopath/narcissist (this one is just foolishly incorrect)/sadist/monster which seems to relieve them of some of the tension. Just what they need. Early release. 'Cause it's so stressful the things I say...

Apparently, words can pierce even more dangerously than low wages and fruitless bouts with bureaucracy.


Anyway, my way everyone's happy.

Oh!
Except them. Else they wouldn't be calling me all those horrible things.

[SaltyWench]

I shut down, and withdraw. Then I stew inside myself for a while, really really getting pissed. The worst thing someone can do is try to pull me out of my inner world during this time... and I will not be responsible for what happens between us if they push it.

Once I've exhausted my anger, it's over unless they turn around and piss me off again, and I move on and pretend nothing happened. Or at least I try. With my ENFJ, she has the endearing but irritating ability to pick up on any and all emotion I have, so when I shut down and tune everyone out, she's offended. I may as well walk up and slap her, my distance hurts her so. I bet watching this relationship from the outside would be entertaining. If the ENFJ is the one who offended me, I always end up being the one actively trying to reconcile, since she's deeply offended due to my reaction to her pissing me off. This happens rarely and the relationship is well worth working through such things. :yes:

[Alpha Prime]

I know an ESFP (quite immature one) who wants everyone else to be pissed off and angry when HE is, so deliberately pushes these emotions onto other people.

[Tropics]

Alpha Prime that person is sick!

[Tropics]

I never lose my temper. I tend to confront people who are close to me directly (like friends and family), and with people I don't know as well, I'll usually get back to them later once I've had a chance to think things through a bit, at which point I might call them or email, etc. So I tend to very directly and logically tell people what it is they are doing that doesn't sit well with me.

But I'm also quite quick to forgive and forget so often I don't get around to sending that email or writing that letter of complaint. Usually once I've had a chance to think about it I run it through my filter of "how important is this in the scheme of life?" If it's not, I tend to just let it roll off my back.

Damn I wish I could do that! That's got to be some kind of gift!

[YourLocalJesus]

It takes some time or skill to piss me off to the point where I become a raving psychotic. But yeah, I have it in me. It usually takes violence to piss me off seriously, or maybe deliberately destroying some important possession of mine. Anyway, when the damage is done they usually run for their lives because my eyes turn black, my face red and veins start bulging in my forehead. If they don't, I usually aim for the throat, balls or eyes.

And yes, when it has gone that far, i'm not much of a talker.

If someone irritates me to the point that I want to lose them, I do the same thing, but verbally. I've got a big talent in the area of not being civil, and I bet I could make the vast majority in here cry if I wanted to. Yep, EVIL ENTJ's :D Know you're thinking it :D

[millerm277]

Oh. I probably should have added to my original post...if someone manages to successfully piss me off, and I can't find a way to remove myself from the situation....watch out. That's only happened once in the last 5 years...it was with someone who'd constantly bothered/made fun of me for as long as I can remember. He was dumb enough to throw the first punch, and after giving him a chance to go away, he decided to continue fighting. As a result, he got a deflated ego, along with a broken arm and some other ailments for his efforts. (Attacking someone stronger and larger than you, because you think they won't fight back is not the most intelligent solution...)

My picture is a good representation of me. Calm and collected under almost all conditions. But push it too far, without being careful, and you'll find yourself in an avalanche of hurt. (verbal or physical.) :D

[wolfy]

It takes A LOT to get me angry but when that does happen, I stew & stew & stew on the inside and completely detach from that person. If the person is civil, I can quite quickly get over what made me angry and get back to being friends with them BUT if someone mocked an aspect of my personality either expressly or in an implied manner (and it's not done in jest), then I NEVER forgive them. EVER. I might get back to being civil but not close/friendly.

How do you other SPs express your anger?

I respond like this too. Exactly like that. Sometimes plan revenge but almost never bother. They can choke on their own bad karma.

[Grayscale]

i dont get angry very often, i dont even remember the last time. usually i just go off by myself to cool off.

[kyuuei]

I use chainsaws.. >.> ..

Nah, usually if it's nothing I can control I yell what I WOULD have said to objects when I'm by myself.

Sometimes though I just get a hair up my ass and blow up and say every little thing that ever pissed me off about that person.

[sarah]

It takes A LOT to get me angry but when that does happen, I stew & stew & stew on the inside and completely detach from that person. If the person is civil, I can quite quickly get over what made me angry and get back to being friends with them BUT if someone mocked an aspect of my personality either expressly or in an implied manner (and it's not done in jest), then I NEVER forgive them. EVER. I might get back to being civil but not close/friendly.

How do you other SPs express your anger?


Wow, I totally relate to that! I can be very easy going and forgiving if someone makes a mistake that ends up costing me time or money. I don't even tend to hold a grudge against thoughless people who say things they don't even realize at the time are insulting. It's when someone insults my personality or my personal choices in such a way that it feels like they've devalued me as a person, then I can't get over it. I can be civil to them, but friendship is out of the question. I express my anger by walling myself off from them, and being freezing cold to them whenever they try to be friendly.

If I'm angry at a family member, that's completely different -- when my sister and I were growing up, I tended to get all hysterical (screaming, crying, slamming doors), but there was this huge bond between us that we knew existed, and that we respected even when we couldn't stand being around each other.



Sarah
ISFP

[BerberElla]

It actually doesn't take alot to piss me off these days, just stepping on my foot at a gig without apologising for it can make me see red, in fact I think I spend far too much of my time trying to control my ever present rage and not get into fights.

I don't go around throwing punches but if they aren't intimidated by my height, my demeanour or crying because of the things I am saying to them and actually try to hit me, then I go nuts and usually get dragged off the person I've pounded to the floor. :blush:

Having a bad temper sucks.

On the other hand it takes alot for someone I know and care about to piss me off enough to say or do anything to them, it's just strangers outside who feel my wrath.

Personal affirmation (as prescribed by the doc) *I'm a nice person, really I am*

[Randomnity]

I get annoyed fairly easily, but usually keep it to myself if I feel unjustified in being annoyed (ex I'm just in a grumpy mood or I realize that my expectations are unrealistic), or else calmly express my dislike with the other person's actions if I feel it'd be productive (ie, to stop it happening again).

I very rarely get to the point of being angry. It's almost always in response to other people getting angry at me, if I feel their over-emotional response is unjustified. I can only think of one occasion when I was angry at someone's action, and that was because he was angry...it takes a lot to anger me with behavior, and normally I would just write off/avoid people who do that anyway. It's only when it's friends that it becomes a problem.

It takes A LOT to get me angry but when that does happen, I stew & stew & stew on the inside and completely detach from that person. If the person is civil, I can quite quickly get over what made me angry and get back to being friends with them
This describes me in most cases, though a few times I've been so angry (and felt justified) that it took a long time (and an apology) before I stop being angry. Although, in many cases, I'm angry because the person was not civil, and that rarely changes.

It's very difficult to piss me off, I have an extremely high tolerance of behavior, but if someone does, I'll generally just confront them and try to get them to change it. If that doesn't work, I'll just stay away from them. Not worth my time and effort to do more than that.
+1. I have the most problems when it's with someone I can't avoid (roommate, family) or someone I don't want to avoid (close friend).

[Bella]

I don't really act out when I'm angry, it's more what happens on the inside. It feels like every other piece of repressed anger is loosened and wants to come to the surface.

[MuraKoji]

Guys, maybe I'm the rare one here, I have a very bad temper and low emotional stability!

Because I'm hot-headed and quick to anger, I may react emotionally when someone piss me off. It depends, if in Real World I tend to be more expressive when it's come to emotion because my motto is, "Do immediately what you want to do,". Expressive means I may scream at them and angry back to them, or react with all my sensitivity like crying in public.

If someone in internet piss me off and they're of course not in the same place as me, I tend to keep those to myself or pray in the bathroom. Or maybe, I listen to some musics to lighten my problems.

[Introverted-esfp]

It depends on who and to what extent. I can get bursts of temporery anger(at the outmost) towards family and close/good friends when provoked, but im naturally forgiving with them, not desiring to harbor any ill-feelings. On the other hand a person of aquintance or a not so close friend , i tend to be harsher, it always ends up with me iqnoring them or avoiding them completely.

[millerm277]

Guys, maybe I'm the rare one here, I have a very bad temper and low emotional stability!

Maybe it's because this is the "SP Arthouse", and you aren't an SP.... :D. (You're welcome to post here though..)

Also, @Introverted-esfp, KMFDM is awesome, and Hau Ruck is a great album IMO.

[lane777]

I talk to them immediately: logically and calmly.

I also flood them with pretentious theory and complex vocab.

I usually 'win'.


If I'm dealing with immaturity (children, adults who think like children), I will be very calm and stern, or just unflinchingly stare into their eyes (with feeling) until they breakdown/start to cry. There's something about breaking convention that gets through to people deeper than social cues.

After that, things always seem more harmonious for everyone, and I can build them back up as a friend.

lol brilliant

[whatever]

well, since runvardh feels welcome to post in the NT threads, I'll make myself at home posting here :D (yeah... it's not nice to discriminate against different types!)


The warning of "you've minorly annoyed me" is receiving the "I will cut you" look... and maybe a snarky comment or two.

It actually takes quite a bit to make me genuinely angry though, mostly because I'm lazy and don't care to invest the energy in anger unless the person is without a doubt deserving. Then I find something they value and destroy it... this gives me endless satisfaction! :) (like selling thier camera to a pawn shop, or proving to them that thier SO loves someone else :devil:)

I usually wait for a couple of weeks for revenge though, so that it's even harder to trace back to me :rolleyes:

[runvardh]

well, since runvardh feels welcome to post in the NT threads, I'll make myself at home posting here :D

Hey, I'm not comfortable being someone else's justification to cross a pre-concieved line in their own mind! ENTPs...

:D

[whatever]

:rofl1: should have known you'd do a search for your name or something of the sort.... ;)

[runvardh]

Nope, serendipidy brought me here. Sorry *shrug*

[whatever]

well, next time she comes around I hope she brings me that espresso I ordered... she's sure taking her time :steam:

[DirtyHarry25]

If I'm stressed or in a pissed off mood, then I'll go for a jog or something like that. Usually anything physical works for me and puts me in a better mood. It also helps me rationalize the situation to see how mad I should be. But if something really pisses me off, then I do two things: 1) I walk away. 2). I tear the person apart with words. I don't have to say much to make them feel like shit