what SP's look for in a potential mate

[GirlAmerica]

Define the following characteristics-

Physical:

Emotional:

Mental:

[Randomnity]

physical: essential. I need to find someone sexually attractive, have that chemistry, or it obviously won't go anywhere beyond friends. Note that this is not the same as them being model-quality or something silly like that. There is only a small degree of objective attractiveness I need, the rest is mainly a chemistry thing. Personality makes someone physically more attractive to me as well.

emotional:
-willing to talk and listen
-willing/able to be supportive/listen to a bitch-fest when needed.
-not malicious to anyone without a good reason.
-reasonably stable and not ruled by emotion.
-not controlling.

mental:
-not too much dumber or smarter than me, so we're on the same wavelength.
-someone I can have interesting debates with.
-willing to consider/debate opposing views instead of immediately dismissing them.

I don't have a checklist or anything, but I am attracted to very few people on more than a superficial level, so you could say that I'm overly choosy. It isn't on a conscious level though. Mostly the combination of chemistry + interesting to talk to + interested in me is what eliminates most people.

[sundowning]

Same things as any other type.

[haplo_09]

As long as she decently looking and not ISFJ/ISTJ - I am happy :)

[sassafrassquatch]

Physical: 100% natural, no artificial colors, flavors, fillers or strange bits of metal poking through her skin. Must be healthy and whole. No amputees or burn victims please. Appendices, wisdom teeth, tonsils and gallbladders are hawt but I can do without if I must. No chronic diseases like asthma, diabetes, etc. Anything like that would make me paranoid that she’s going to die and I don’t need the worry. No blondes either. Blech.

Preferably a redhead or raven haired girl of the sort who burst into flames in direct sunlight. Well endowed bosomwise but not so much as to be uncomfortable for her. Height between 5’ 4” and 5’ 8”. Not too thin, not too fat.

Emotional: Stable, well balanced, no psychos, not too possessive, not controlling, emotions should always take a backseat to rational thought, empathetic/sympathetic/whatever, not too moody.

Mental: Similar intelligence to my own, rational, curious, good for deep discussions, not stodgy, not an intellectual snob, preferably an ISTx.

I don’t want a normal dating/marriage type of relationship. The form of my ideal relationship would be more like best friends with benefits who are room mates. No marriage, no wedding, no rings, no kids.

[pocket lint]

LOL @ sassafrassquatch's answers :laugh:! Have you found anyone close to your ideal?

[whatever]

physical- I usually go for dark hair and dark eyes, but I'm not picky! :D I also like people who are as active as I am

emotional- someone who has enough self confidence that they won't need my constant praise and re-affirmations of my devotion to them, self-sufficiency

mental- please not someone who wants to discuss horrible abstract things like philosophy and poetry? a smart person is good though! :D

all of these would be nice- in about 20 years! :D

[ChazzMichaels]

Physical- I would prefer blonde or brunette, my same height approx., blue eyes, not too large. Sexual compatibility, would have to be adventurous.

Mental- Prefer someone of fair intelligence, I love to talk about abstract things.. sometimes, when my N is showing.


Emotional- Positive outlook on life, we can do it! attitude, must be a feeler who can understand my emotions and care about them.


Loves to have fun!:yay: Can stop and smell the flowers for hours ideally.

[arborvitae]

Physical: Taller than me, so more than 5' 8''. Not morbidly obese. Good hygiene. I don't like anybody too vain, but its good to take care of your body and at least make an effort to look nice. Bonus points for smelling good.

Mental: Intelligent, obviously. The cuddly-wuddly and physical side of a relationship is going to get old, so being able to keep up an interesting conversation is important. Can be a deep thinker, but must respect my need to be completely irrational. Also very important to be passionate about something - work, a hobby, a subject, etc.

Emotional: Loving, but not clingy. Emotionally stable, since that helps to ground me. Willing to put in effort to bond with me, since I take a little work to get to know. Likes to be silly and have fun.

[Yomama99]

Physical: Skinny or Fat depends...on the face, I tend to have a preference for short hair or really long hair (no in between) ..but it's got to be the luxurious long hair. She definitely has to be cute.

Emotional: Crazier the better. I'm not talking about bipolar psycho or controlling batheads..just wacky is fine.

Mental: Smart, sometimes smarter than me is fine too! She has to like me for my strengths and give me space.

For female types: ENFP, INTP - NO J's I grew up in a family filled with those horrible types of people who value MONEY and MATERIAL goods over beer, video games.

[Yomama99]

As long as she decently looking and not ISFJ/ISTJ - I am happy :)

Holy shiat, I've dated those two preferences and I agree with you whole heartedly. It was very agonizing dating those two types. However I've included most of the J's.

[Hotherym]

For female types: ENFP, INTP - NO J's I grew up in a family filled with those horrible types of people who value MONEY and MATERIAL goods over beer, video games.

I'm a J type and I can't fathom valuing money and material things. I'd rather burn it all if it meant being with an awesome family. Or did you mean SJs?

[ofugur]

No blondes either. Blech.


Does not compute!

[Grayscale]

Define the following characteristics-

Physical:

Emotional:

Mental:

- Physically... someone capable, usually someone who is in at least fairly good shape and able to share the activities I like with.

- Emotionally... someone who is well intentioned... dents and scratches acceptable. :blush: Human, but also someone I can count on and cheer for to overcome life's obstacles, not someone who just lets everything run them over. I can truck through a lot and it helps if they can keep up with me.

- Mental... same as physical. Such that it rarely if ever becomes a detriment. If they can challenge me, that's nice, but not a necessity.

[PinkPiranha]

- Physically... someone capable, usually someone who is in at least fairly good shape and able to share the activities I like with.

- Emotionally... someone who is well intentioned... dents and scratches acceptable. :blush: Human, but also someone I can count on and cheer for to overcome life's obstacles, not someone who just lets everything run them over. I can truck through a lot and it helps if they can keep up with me.

- Mental... same as physical. Such that it rarely if ever becomes a detriment. If they can challenge me, that's nice, but not a necessity.


Grayscale left off:

*does not mind icy paws

*eats tasty penguins/seals/Inuits with similar verve and elan

*enjoys invading certain towns in Alaska every year to terrorize the old folks at the garbage dump

Optional: *can take a small independently-held commonwealth with a spork and a shoelace at a moment's notice :D

[Grayscale]

* enjoys chasing Eskimo children! :devil:

[PinkPiranha]

* enjoys chasing Eskimo children! :devil:

*becomes frolicsome after one too many Coca-Colas

[FallsPioneer]

Those commercials are so cute.

[Grayscale]

i was in a few until i ate the set director :sad:

[PinkPiranha]

i was in a few until i ate the set director :sad:


He smelled like tasty trash and penguin feet. You couldn't help yourself. You are absolved of all wrong-doing, Mighty Carnivore. Go in peace. *zen chimes*

[Grayscale]

thank you mighty piranha, you have unburdened me! i shall go and make peace with the family!

[PinkPiranha]

thank you mighty piranha, you have unburdened me! i shall go and make peace with the family!

Well. They might appreciate that, especially after you dragged their patriarch out into the road and paddled him with your giant paws before eating him.

Remember to bring a card. It's polite.

[Grayscale]

"sorry about eating your husband/father, I hope this makes up for it. if it's any consolation he tasted pretty good."

*$10 starbucks gift card*

"dont spend it all in one place"

[aelan]

"sorry about eating your husband/father, I hope this makes up for it. if it's any consolation he tasted pretty good."

*$10 starbucks gift card*

"dont spend it all in one place"

:yim_rolling_on_the_

You left out the *burrrppp* at the end.

[PinkPiranha]

:yim_rolling_on_the_

You left out the *burrrppp* at the end.

He doesn't need any more reasons to apologize! :doh: You will burp quietly and discretely, or face another gift card exchange!

[Grayscale]

so it's probably out of the question to ask if I could use the restroom... :blush:


"Yeah, hmm, how to put this delicately... a certain somebody is clogging up the toilet and I couldn't find the plunger. On the bright side, we could probably have a ceremony now..."

[PinkPiranha]

lol!!!

There's no Hallmark for that one, Gray. *shakes head grimly* You and your faux pa(w)s.

[Grayscale]

lol!!!

There's no Hallmark for that one, Gray. *shakes head grimly* You and your faux pa(w)s.

:rofl1:

Polar bears need their own line of hallmark cards apparently

[PinkPiranha]

:yim_rolling_on_the_

Ahh, you're killing me!

Sometimes, one must suffer a little em-bear-ass-ment.

[Grayscale]

ok the thread train has been derailed and now's it's heading down the embankment into the river :rofl1:

[PinkPiranha]

ok the thread train has been derailed and now's it's heading down the embankment into the river :rofl1:

Careening wildly over the trestle and into the ravine, my friend. Everyone into the mail car! It's behind the coal shuttle! Scurry scurry! (or lumber awkwardly as the case may be for the larger predators)...

Seriously, though, sorry mods. I'll stop. *sheepish*

//coffee talk voice// New topic: what SPs look for in a mate... Talk amongst yourselves.