I won't date someone until I've known them for at least a few weeks. It's the best way to avoid hook ups and one night stands. You get to know someone, let them get to know you, and both of you know beforehand what the other person is like and wants. It's stupid to do that window shopping dating thing because you are basing everything on how a person looks and your initial first impression of them. Plus your motives are skewed if you go on a date with someone based on physical attraction. Then you end up just getting laid instead of starting a relationship. With the prevalence of STDs it isn't wise to be having a lot of sex with many different people. And as you mentioned, the dynamics are FUBAR. At least if you get to know someone before you start dating you can have a friendship if it doesn't work out, whereas you tend to avoid each other if it doesn't work out the other way.
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