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Going with BW's theory, I think it's possible, Tara, that you have had to subvert your Fi because life as a wife and mother has required that you use Fe and maybe Si a great deal at the expense of the functions you would normally be developing for your age and type.

Also, with a husband whom I assume has a strong, possibly larger than life personality, it doesn't leave you much of a platform for shining except as his sidekick. You have probably bent over backwards to accommodate his dreams and passions, but you might both need some practice doing the same for you. It sounds as though he is willing. Take him up on it.

I think your taking time to get fit is a big step in the right direction and I applaud you for it. Keep trying to find ways to do things you love and expect your husband to accommodate them (just like you would for him-- you are equals and you deserve it). You will feel better about your life and yourself and that will give you a better perspective for seeing where you want to go from there.

Going from what Substitute has said here and elsewhere, I think your husband needs a certain amount of pushing back, if that makes sense. If there is no resistance, nothing solid, it gives him nothing to bounce off of. He probably wants to play racquetball, not golf, relationally speaking, whether or not he knows it.

Anyway, that might just all be crap, but that's what my gut is saying. Whatever, however, I'm pullin for ya.