These questions are being answered by a guy in the middle of having his heartbroken by an INFJ who has stopped responding to all manners of communication for no reason other than I may have loved too much too fast. My other two "relationships" were almost insignificant as one was a 6 month thing back in high school that ended badly and the other was a 3 week fling in back in early 04 with a Chilean swimsuit model... Aye Caramba! (it also ended badly)
What do you look for in a significant other?
Travel Travel Travel. Hotness. Travel. I judge people based on how well traveled they are. I know this sounds shallow but it's rare to find someone with the same worldview as me if they haven't traveled a bit. I look for intelligence, they have to be a reader and into books. Have to have an open mind and a big heart.
Do they HAVE to be "Mr/Mrs Righ" or will "good enough" do?
They have to be the right one. With the 3 girls that I have attempted love with, they all had that mystical mutual animal attraction thing going on at the start. I gotta feel that or I am not interested.
Do you just sometimes need to be with SOMEONE (anyone?)
Right now I would like very much to be with ANYONE just to stop hurting for SOMEONE.
Do you have 'friends with benefits' and if so, how do you determine who you'll do this with and how does this relationship play out?
Never been, wouldn't mind trying though! *Unless you count meaningless backpacker hookups, then yeah we still talk but I live far from all of them and there is no more hooking up going on*
Are you a traditional 1 person at a time monogamous type or do you play the field or have ambiguous relationships or else nontraditional arrangements with people?
"1 gal guy" Old Bing Crosby song from High Society. I swear by it.
How to decide when to step it up from casual dating to something else?
I never consider any of my dates casual. If it's casual than it's not worth going on to me. There's gotta be some serious connection
Are you a tease? A flirt? Do you flirt with intent or just for fun?
No.
How do you get out of relationships?
I hurt for what seems like forever and then I move on... this means I've never been the one doing the dumping.
Are you usually calling the shots?
I try but it never works that way.
Can you tell when you first meet someone that they are Dating/Long Term/ Fun material?
I'd like to think so but then they always end up being psycho.
Do you ask people out or make it clear that you want to be asked out or are you very sly about it or does being asked out catch you off guard?
I just kind of let it build up to the point of knowing that they aren't going to say no, that way it starts off strong... Maybe I should rethink the start, that might be why it tapers out eh?
Even if you two had great chemistry, are there any deal-breakers?
Kids. No kids for me. And travel, they gotta be down for traveling, maybe even a semi-vagabondistic lifestyle. If they are fixed and won't budge from their current global location, forgetaboutit!
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