What do you look for in a significant other?
Hoo boy. Let's see.. physically I like dark hair and someone who's built bigger than I am, and older. I really really prefer extroverts, as I'm big on helping people, but not so sociable myself, so I like being an emotional booster to someone who can then go boost lots of other people! <3 I like someone who can make me laugh, is
honest and direct, not terribly insecure(at least secure enough not to pretend to be someone else!) and will give me the freedom to be my un-perfect self just like I will for them. Also someone I can have deep conversations with, and also playful debate/banter. Someone who doesn't think I'm immature for dressing up in cosplay and going to anime/gaming conventions.
Do they HAVE to be "Mr/Mrs Righ" or will "good enough" do? Do you just sometimes need to be with SOMEONE (anyone?)
"Good enough" is fine for me. To me, everyone has their faults and everyone has their strengths, so.. find someone whose weaknesses aren't intolerable to you, whose strengths are the ones you're looking for enough to overshadow their weaknesses, and stick with it, because the only thing that's going to happen with a new person is that those things will shift around. I never date just for the sake of being with someone. To me, that's a waste of time.
Do you have 'friends with benefits' and if so, how do you determine who you'll do this with and how does this relationship play out?
The two times I tried this it actually ended up in a huge complicated triangle and everybody ended up hurt. I vowed not to do that anymore. The only determining factor is trusting them enough to know they wouldn't use my actions or emotions against me/ intentionally hurt me.
Are you a traditional 1 person at a time monogamous type or do you play the field or have ambiguous relationships or else nontraditional arrangements with people?
I'm monogamous. I like someone or I don't. As I said before, I believe in finding someone you like and doing your best to make it work. Though, I suppose there could be a time when I could hang out with different guys I liked on different occasions before letting something more grow with one. Whether that's playing the field or not is up to you.
How to decide when to step it up from casual dating to something else?
I'm usually not actually attracted to people that often, so if someone I've been spending time with is decently responsible, treats me and others with respect and fits a good bit of the qualities I posted in the first question, I give it a shot. As I said, I'm not really a casual dater to begin with.
Are you a tease? A flirt? Do you flirt with intent or just for fun?
I'm a big flirt when I choose to be, and I do it just as a way of making people laugh and being friendly. Unless I actually like someone, then of course it's with the intent of scoping out their reactions to my come-ons/touches. I actually don't do it very often, though, because I don't want to give people the wrong idea.
How do you get out of relationships?
I actually only ended one, and that was after he had broken up with me first and then we got back together. I told him I just didn't feel the same, and it wasn't fair to him.
Are you usually calling the shots?
No, I'm the submissive type.
Can you tell when you first meet someone that they are Dating/Long Term/ Fun material?
The intuition in me usually causes me to be drawn to the people that are going to be important in my life. But I get to know them before I judge just what their purpose is, and I always assume romance last.
Do you ask people out or make it clear that you want to be asked out or are you very sly about it or does being asked out catch you off guard?
I make it pretty clear when I like someone. I'll even be the one to ask them to go places, but still leave it up to them to make the call for officially "asking me out." However, if I don't like someone, but still not totally abhorred to the idea of dating them, I usually act pretty shy and reclusive for fear of leading them on.
Even if you two had great chemistry, are there any deal-breakers?
I can't stand smokers 
Plus I have trust issues to begin with, so if I catch you in a lie I don't understand, it's gonna make it hard.