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Old 07-07-2008, 01:51 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Uytuun View Post
IMO and in my experience the martyr-like accomodating of others that NFJs are always linked to stems from a deep (existential) need to receive a strong emotional bond/affirmation in return. As such, its status as "real caring about others" is problematic because they essentially do it for themselves rather than for the other person.
Don't you think that every type wants to develop an intense bond with another person? Maybe NTs find it easier to push the need aside, but I still think it's present.

Although, I do agree that no actions are totally altruistic. We only sacrifice for other people because we get some sort of positive feeling as a result.
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